I'll be honest, I didn't find a single book that helped me with my ELCS (breech baby). I was devestated that I had to have a section and completely lost focus of the fact that it was the safest way to deliver my baby. Ask your birth partner to remind you of this if you are feeling down. I think I could have had a really positive birth experience if I had asked my DH to do this for me (i think he was as lost and confused as I was though to be fair).
If there are particular things you want, ask for them and make sure you get them, for example the screen lowered so you can see it born, or skin to skin straight away. The more in control you feel the more positive your experience will be.
And also, ask in advance if on the day you wait in your own room, or if you are in a waiting room with all the other ELCS for that day. We had to wait in a waiting room and I felt like crying nearly the whole time, it was so impersonal. if I have to have a ELCS section next time I am going to be a complete diva and insist on somewhere private to wait for my childs birth with just my DH. I strongly recomend others to do the same. I am writing to my local health authority to ask why this is their policy and if they would consider changing it. Don't know what happens in other hospitals though.
I don't remember seeing the book mentioned above though, if I have another ELSC I will look it up, although I think it would be better second time round.
We are so incredibly lucky to live in a time and place where we have medical knowledge to help us deliver our babies safely, I just wish we as women didn't put so much pressure on ourselves and each other to have this ridiculous "perfect" birth. The perfect birth is so rare and elusive that it is an unrealistic ideal to try and live up to.
Good luck, and I hope you are able to accept and feel better about your section soon.