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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Realisation that this is going to hurt!!!

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friedfrog · 18/06/2012 10:06

Good morning ladies

Ok, so up until now I have been really chilled about labor, it happens everyday for thousands of years etc blah blah......but I have just had my show and realised that .....gulp.....I am doing this....soon!!

I am hoping it will all start in the next few days and I won't go overdue (I am 38+6) but now a teensy bit scared!!!!!

Frog

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poppycat04 · 18/06/2012 10:09

Don't be scared. It does hurt .... A bit.... But then you get to snuggle a newborn and you start to forget! Can't be that bad, have 3 DC and considering another

poppycat04 · 18/06/2012 10:09

Oh and good luck!! So exciting

iknowwho · 18/06/2012 10:10

Sure it does hurt BUT you are so caught up in the moment you just get on with it!
People do forget what it is like (unless it is a very extreme birth) otherwise no one would go on to have a second baby would they?

It is like a pain that you haven't had before so it is hard to describe.
Have a positve attitude and go with the thought of enjoying the new expierence - because that is excatly what it is!

Good luck!

CanIhavesomeginnowplease · 18/06/2012 10:12

Don't be scared! You'll do great and it's sooo worth it! Good luck x

Herrena · 18/06/2012 10:13

Yep, it hurts. Sorry.

If it's any consolation, I'm at 34+6 with DS2 and the spectre of labour is looming large in my head!!

Also, DH was amused at how quickly I changed attitude with my first one. Immediately after (uncomplicated vaginal) delivery, I was lying there saying 'God, that was HORRIBLE' yet 12 hours later my sister asked what it was like and I said 'Ah, not that bad really'. You do forget the details and it does end eventually. Cling to that! And good luck

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friedfrog · 18/06/2012 10:17

Thanks ladies! I will let you know any updates.

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Herrena · 18/06/2012 10:19

Actually, I do have a rough description of what the pain was like (for me anyway).

You know what it's like when you've got a dodgy stomach and the, ahem, 'materials' are proceeding down through your intestine towards the exit and it feels like you've got trapped wind and it's quite unpleasant? Well that's what earlier contractions were like for me - that sort of pain, but hanging around for much longer than gas pains would.

Is that helpful? Probably not. Pretend I never said it if it freaks you out :)

Ushy · 18/06/2012 10:20

It doesn't necessarily hurt - I got an epidural for one dc and didn't feel a thing - not even the epidural going in.
Good luck

Picklelilli · 18/06/2012 12:15

Good luck frog!
If you weren't worried then I think you wouldn't be 'normal'

I thought I would just add that the pain I experienced during the birth of ds was no as I expected it was all across my hips rather then stomach.

I'm 37 weeks with dd and even though my first birth was fantastic 4 hours start to finish I still worry about this one.

Hope all goes well for you

MarathonMama · 18/06/2012 13:03

Just wanted to say that I was absolutely terrified at the prospect of child birth with DC1 and it was far better than I expected (I had gas and air and a TENS machine).

With DC2 the labour seemed effortless as I knew what to expect and it was really instinctive. I also think it was less painful as I didn't feel frightened at all.

Please don't be scared, you may just surprise yourself.

The scary bit (for me) is the bit afterwards when they don't sleep, you're bloody knackered and haven't got a clue what's going on! If you said to me you could have 4 weeks with a newborn or go through labour again and get a month old baby who is sleeping (a bit) at night, I'd go through labour again! ;-)

StarlightWithAsteroid · 18/06/2012 14:38

I remember watching a really lovely homebirth at NCT classes, which was supposed to give us confidence and think positively.

All I remember thinking was 'god that look horrendous and I don't wanna do it'

I've had 3 labours and I'd say they were all an endurance test of some kind although all so completely different from each other in terms of how i felt and cooed (despite all 3 described as textbook) but it is absolutely essential to stay focused and as relaxed and positive as you can. I think the worst thing is getting to the end of a contraction and then being scared and tensing up for the next.

Being relaxed IN BETWEEN contractions was the most useful skill I learned.

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friedfrog · 18/06/2012 19:29

Great advice and words of wisdom, supportive as always :)

Thanks all.

Nothing else to report........ Grrrrrrr!

Frog x

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Coops79 · 18/06/2012 19:38

Hey friedfrog - just sending some positive vibes to you. Try to focus on the good bits and the fact that any pain will end. I'm due Wednesday; will be thinking of you. Hope all goes well. xx

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friedfrog · 19/06/2012 19:04

Waters may have broken, mw is pretty sure but can't tell for sure unless I go to hospital. She had to call hospital and they wanted me to go in for an induction! Luckily my mw's are ace and said I was fine!

Getting excited!

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JuliaScurr · 19/06/2012 19:09

Only done it once - tens, gas & air, epidural
the worst thing was the uncomfortable agonising delivery couch

slothprincess · 19/06/2012 19:11

Very exciting friedfrog. You'll be holding your baby soon!

I had no faith in my abilities to cope with the pain of labour but when it came to it I completely surprised myself. I found a strength I didn't know I had and although it was painful, I was able to cope with it in a way I never expected.

Iwillorderthefood · 21/06/2012 10:26

Yes it hurts, try not to look for the very first pain, as you will feel twinges you may not have otherwise felt, this will make the whole thing a lot longer. Try to keep calm as I think it is worse if you panic. Remember that when in full blown labour and everything starts to feel overwhelming that you are likely starting to transition into the pushing stage and it is then nearly over. You can do it. It is very mind over matter I think, keep trying to be as calm as you possibly can.

AdventuresWithVoles · 21/06/2012 10:28

OP should have popped by now? Update us, eh? :)

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friedfrog · 22/06/2012 22:43

Hi all

Had my beautiful daughter yesterday at 00:36. Amazing experience, TENS, gas and air and pool at home. Managed to go from 6cm to delivery in less than 2 hours (pushed for 10 minutes) I am sure this was due to being relaxed in my own home. You were all so right in your advice, it wasn't horrible and my god it's worth it!

Hope you are all well, I am off for a snuggle xxx

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Wolfiefan · 22/06/2012 22:46

Wonderful update. Congratulations!

MrsHoolie · 22/06/2012 22:54

Congratulations!

StarlightWithAsteroid · 22/06/2012 23:14

Lovely!

TheCountessOlenska · 22/06/2012 23:22

Ahh lovely! Well done!

openerofjars · 22/06/2012 23:25

I knew you could do it! (just found thread or would have posted earlier ). Well done, fab job.

nannyl · 23/06/2012 08:29

I was a bit worried about it hurting too, though was determined i would cope wuth G&A for my homebirth

reality was actually it didnt hurt that much.... i rated it similar to nasty paper cut

i had no drugs or pain relief and did it myself on the sofa as the pool wasnt ready.... wasnt ready because as it wasnt hurting that much i couldnt believe it was anything other than the earliest stages of labour

so you never know, it might not be that bad

id sooner give birth than be pg for 9m!

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