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What is overdue and WHY the hassle when it happens?

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StarlightMaJesty · 12/06/2012 18:00

Okay, I've seen and researched the arguments but, until now, it hasn't been something that has happened to me.

Now that it has, and I am experiencing it first hand, I'm wondering WHY it is such an area for battle.

I mean, I KNOW my rights etc. that no-one can force intervention or refuse hb etc etc. but I also know that this kind of pressure isn't conducive to getting the baby out spontaneosly.

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5madthings · 14/06/2012 19:39

well you will at some point but hopefully a push or two and then bowlingball baby will be out! :)

EdgarAllenPimms · 14/06/2012 21:14

later babies behave differently in that respect...

DC4 is still doing a head spin on my cervix, at 40+4, though has engaged fully and popped back out again twice now...(from what i felt) ...still going op/anterior. DC 3 did this, but less so. very mobile. MW assures me contractions will stack it up quickly given the amount of space it evidently has!

good to hear resolved and lots of BH.

StarlightOverJuicy · 14/06/2012 22:50

Blimey Edgar, I didn't know you were at the same stage too!

(please don't beat me to it) Wink

Northernlurker · 15/06/2012 08:19

I didn't know you were pg either Edgar. Ooooooooooh how exciting! Hope everything goes very smoothly for you.

EdgarAllenPimms · 15/06/2012 10:06

i was trying to keep quiet but obviously it is better to share. :)

i'd have loved to be in labour this morning as my very lovely MW goes on holiday for a week from tonight...belly still huge but comfortable.

StarlightOverJuicy · 15/06/2012 18:34

Baby Asteroid was born this morning at 8:14 ! 8lb 9oz

Born at shift changeover when Mws having brought no less than 5 bottles of gas and air but forgotten the tube meant that once arrived (8:05) spent most of the time in the driveway calling colleagues whilst I gave birth to the head.

So, totally hands off unassisted birth but with mw close by. Practically perfect but for the lack of gas and air. They were very generous with it after the birth though for after pains and just for being a bit sore.

stoatie · 15/06/2012 18:43

Fantastic

Welcome Asteroid

So glad it went well

EdgarAllenPimms · 15/06/2012 19:28

hooray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

really glad it sounds like it went well !!!
welcome little Asteroid :)

Thanks and Brew or Wine and Biscuit

5madthings · 15/06/2012 19:44

yay congratulations!!! and welcome little one :) so pleased for you starlight, hope you are all snuggled up enjoying little one :) xxx best wishes and congrats to you and your family :)

Lougle · 15/06/2012 19:49

Well done you Smile

PestoPenguin · 15/06/2012 19:50

Congratulations Grin

Babieseverywhere · 15/06/2012 19:56

Congratulations :)

trafficwarden · 15/06/2012 20:20

Welcome baby Asteroid and well done Starlight! Am delighted for you. Looking forward to full installment of story.
PS Was considering putting myself on call but have had your celebratory drink in advance - whoops!

TheProvincialLady · 15/06/2012 20:29

Many congratulationsSmile

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treedelivery · 15/06/2012 20:53

Oh fabby dooby doooo!!!

Am made up for you - many many congratulations.

Northernlurker · 15/06/2012 21:31

Oh that's lovely Smile Must be the morning for it - my new niece arrived at 10.30! 8lb 10oz!

RedKites · 15/06/2012 21:34

Congratulations Thanks

YoulllaughAboutItOneDay · 15/06/2012 22:00

Congratulations!

dontlaugh · 15/06/2012 22:03

Well done Starlight! Welcome baby Asteroid. Lovely story.

umboo · 16/06/2012 00:30

Wow congratulations that's lovely news!! I had mine too-Thursday morning! Didn't want to post on here untilyou had some news to report first:) so we both avoided inductions:):)

StarlightWithAsteroid · 16/06/2012 05:34

Ooooh, umboo, Congratulations to you too! Grin

Sossiges · 16/06/2012 09:43

Congratulations to you both!

StarlightWithAsteroid · 16/06/2012 10:41

Congratulations Northern

StarlightWithAsteroid · 16/06/2012 11:55

Birth story:

Thurs - MW appointment showing head free. DIY internal couldn't reach cervix. Had had however quite detailed discussions with senior mw about birth plan and interventions etc.

Woke at 2:30am Fri morning with 'wind' and uncomfortable bowels having had a curry the previous evening.

Woke again at 2:45, then 3:00am. Considered the start of labour but after 30 mins on the loo trying to poo nothing decided to run a bath to ease stomach cramps and, given bottom pressure, to float in on my front (is quite a big bath) just 'in case' it was labour and bottom pressure signifying back to back.

I played with the cx timer on iPad whilst in bath from 3:30am and got minute long cramps between 2.5 and 4 mins appart. Concentrated on breathing during and in between and even managed to doze a bit with head on towel in between them.

At 5:30am I called DH as desperate for change and no longer comfortable. Wanted to try TENS but he needed to sort it. Lay back in bed with TENS but quickly had to get into kneeling position on floor. TENS was wierd. The booster button did massage in a comforting way but also seemed to 'massage up' the contractions into more powerful and intense ones.

At 5:45am, DH called doula, who I asked to come when she was ready but didn't need to run. She came at 6:30 and helped me with some breathing. I was feeling an urge to push but it really didn't feel like any baby was going to come out. It was just after the peak of a contraction for a few seconds. It was strange. I was recommended to walk up and down the stairs but I refused to walk anywhere.

The doula suggested I should make contact with the Mws so DH left a message on a series of answer machines. At 7:00am they called back and asked me when I wanted them. I said in an hour which they replied was good because I would get a new mw from next shift who could then stay with me. 7:15am My mum took the kids out for breakfast and then did the school run.

So, DH started to fill the pool and I felt even stronger pressure in my bottom but never for whole contractions. Sometimes I had to shout at that point and a bit of water came out each time. I did a DIY internal again because I was confused and it felt very strange. I became very Hmm coz cervix seemed HUGE and bouncy and touching it brought on urge to wee. So I sat on the loo and instantly my waters 'popped', and when I wiped there was blood. I assume now it was bulging waters I felt. The waters were clear. It was 7:30am

Doula got DH to call mws again to update and request attendance and I went downstairs to wait for pool filling whilst kneeling over the sofa. Meanwhile the pushing and shouting parts of each contraction increased from about a quarter of it to about half of it. I had to breath carefully in between each contraction to stop me being afraid of the next one which the doula helped me with but I was able to kind of doze in between too. I remember thinking that I was pretty fed up now and really can't be bothered with this any more and then wondering if that meant transition.

At 7:55 I knelt in the pool and instantly as the warm water hit me had a massive intense pushing contraction that I had to shout and tense all the way through. DH called mw again and they said they were 5 mins away.

8:00 mw arrived, said hi, I begged her for some gas and air so she went to her car and I never saw her again. 2-3 more contractions.

I wanted to feel what was going on so had a rummage down below but couldn't feel a thing. But the next cx, I knew the head was coming out and instinctively panted. 8:10am the senior mw that I had met the day before and a jnr mw turned up to a pair of eyebrows sticking out of me. As had no gas and air or any drugs I seemed to just breath as I had to which mean a little grunting and a lot of panting. The head came out REALLY slowly and carried on sliding in between contractions.

The mw finally handed me some gas, but I waited until the head was out and had a celebratory suck instead. I sat back for two more quick contractions where the body came out, and then the legs, in front of me. I then picked up the baby and brought him to the surface.

The placenta was delivered within minutes but membranes got a bit tangled so I had to hand baby over to DH whilst I wiggled them a bit. Then DH cut the cord whilst I got out, was made comfortable, given back the gas and air for after pains and then fed the baby for 45 minutes and drank tea whilst Mws and doula wrote notes, tidied up and had a chat.

Had a very small tear that didn't need any stitching.

But.......I'm really glad it's over!

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