Hi NameOfTheNick, going through the same thing as you at the moment. 1st baby and extended breech diagnosed at 36w. Now 38+4 and ELCS schedule for 39+1. Midwife said she wouldn't have ECV in my position either, but the obs looked at me like I was being stupid when I said I would prefer an ELCS over attempting and ECV. Obs also said they "certainly wouldn't make me attempt a vaginal breech birth at all." You will hear a lot of anecdotal evidence favouring/discounting all options in the days to come, whatever you do, don't feel pressure from any healthcare professions to make a decision you are uncomfortable with!
However, I totally understand what you say when you said you don't want an ELCS. I have been planning hoping for a water birth, doing lots of yoga, reading up on hypnobirthing, no drugs etc etc, so this was quite a mind shift. Not only was I personally anti drugs (simply a personal choice) but I was looking forward to the birth experience with DP and really struggled to come to terms with the alternative. I've had a couple of weeks to get used to the idea and now I really hope she doesn't turn! Oddly, the thought of shifting back to the previous mode of thought would be really hard. I've done a lot of reading and am focusing hard on the benefits of ELCS.
I declined the ECV because I didn't want to have the drugs to relax the uterus and the associated fetal risks. Whilst everyone I asked actually said it was very painful (and 4 out of 5 I spoke to said it didn't work anyway) it wasn't the pain that bothered me in the slightest. I tried acupuncture & moxibustion to see if she would turn 'on her own' but neither have worked for me, worth investigating asap if you are keen to try natural solutions for your baby turning, but you need to get onto these quickly. (Some people will think these are a load of rubbish but studies have been quite interesting) aim.bmj.com/content/20/1/26.full.pdf
I have come to accept that there is a reason my baby is in breech. The Obs said they could not tell me after the birth, it's just one of those things. But I can't help but think maybe I have a funny shaped uterus, the cord is too short - who knows, but I'm now content that she is head up for a reason!
It's a difficult decision but you have a few days to confirm your decision (my ELCS was only just booked). Things you might want to investigate:
- breastfeeding (I've had lots of encouragement that this needn't be adversely affected)
- recovery time (if you are prepared, physically and mentally this doesn't have to be as bad as you may be expecting)
- natural remedies (depending on your thoughts on homeopathy, but look at things like Arnica, and oils that will soothe your baths in recovery weeks.)
- what if your baby turns last minute find out if your hospital will allow you to proceed with ELCS on the day if your baby does a last minute turn (mine won't, this is my biggest current stress)
If you have time, order Caesarean Birth: A Positive Approach to Preparation and Recovery by Leigh East on Amazon asap - it is REALLY helpful.
Sorry for the long post but hopefully something in there is useful! Good luck, let us know what you decide!