I'm in a similar situation, now almost 23wks with DC2; had EMCS first time around after a 30+ hour spontaneous labour, although I did get to 8cms DS then got completely stuck, I didn't dilate any further, and there were signs of fetal distress.
I posted a few weeks back prior to my first consultants appt, and there are some lovely, and really helpful people on here who appeared and helped me out.
I still haven't made a decision; have a further appointment at 28weeks to go through notes from last time and try to make an informed decision, but I seem to sway daily at the moment, one day I'd love a VBAC, the next I sway back towards "better the devil you know" and the ELCS option. Like you, I'd really rather avoid another EMCS if I at all can, even though mine wasn't horrendous, and had a relatively good recovery, i think it was the feeling of being totally out of control that freaked me.
One thing the midwife and consultant have both said to me however is that, certainly where I am, and assume same elsewhere, there's a much lower threshold with a VBAC for the point where they say "enough's enough", so the EMCS isn't so much of a panic station as it would have been first time around; midwife described it as a better term being "unplanned" rather than "emergency". Even so, if I'm going to end up down that road again, a large part of me thinks I'd rather just accept it from the beginning than get so far again and risk feeling the same failure as I did last time (not that an EMCS is a failure in any way, that's just the way my hormonally addled brain took it last time, and I'm scared of that happening again, for all the logic I can apply at this stage!).
I don't have to make a decision until the appointment at 36wks, so still plenty of time to keep changing my mind...
Probably hasn't been an awful lot of help, but sit tight, someone who's actually been through it all and finally made the decision will be along soon I'm sure :)
And congratulations!