Rather embarrassing query about sex

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Ok so here it goes, apologies for tmi.

But I was talking about this with a few women from my nct group. We had our now not-so babies 22months ago btw. We were discussing how sex has changed postnatally and there seemed to be a near unanimous opinion that it's more comfortable woman being on top now. Is there some sort of scientific reasoning why that could be?

I have never heard of that before. Its the same as before for me.

hope not...i hate being on top!

Well I reckon it's if you've had stitching or trauma or a fear of sex after birth it allows the woman to have more control over how deep he goes

Although to my mind you need to have quite a bit of muscle strength in order to be able to control the depth. So if you've really been damaged by pregnancy/delivery, on top is probably the last thing you're going to want to do?? Can't really comment though - still too damaged and in need of repair to contemplate bedroom antics!

Oh carda, I really hope youre on the mend and that the bedroom stuff can resume soon for you!

Reckon we are looking at the autumn at the earliest .

on top is definitely more comfortable for me since having dcs. not sure why though but the control thing definitely helps.

I've found that being on top is definitely the only way for me now whereas before I had my DS i was not a fan.

I had a traumatic birth experience 5 months ago where I was flat on my back (had epidural) with forceps, end of the bed removed and a 4th degree tear. We've only managed it 3-4 times and thats only been recent but I absolutely hated being on my back as it just brought back horrible flashbacks.

I would agree that being on top gives control and also in no way brings back memories of giving birth.

I have hardly ever been able to orgasm in missionary position. On top or from behind works for me now as it did before childbirth. No change really. It took about 6 months for me to feel completely normal with having sex again.

This in interesting. I asked dp his thoughts and his response was "well I think we best practice just to make sure" I'm going to google...

If you tore the angle of entry puts less pressure on the perineum on top....