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Childbirth

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Rather embarrassing query about sex

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first1 · 26/03/2012 12:35

Ok so here it goes, apologies for tmi.

But I was talking about this with a few women from my nct group. We had our now not-so babies 22months ago btw. We were discussing how sex has changed postnatally and there seemed to be a near unanimous opinion that it's more comfortable woman being on top now. Is there some sort of scientific reasoning why that could be?

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molly3478 · 26/03/2012 12:39

I have never heard of that before. Its the same as before for me.

seemedlikeagudideaatthetime · 26/03/2012 12:45

hope not...i hate being on top!

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first1 · 26/03/2012 12:56

Well I reckon it's if you've had stitching or trauma or a fear of sex after birth it allows the woman to have more control over how deep he goes

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cardamomginger · 26/03/2012 14:42

Although to my mind you need to have quite a bit of muscle strength in order to be able to control the depth. So if you've really been damaged by pregnancy/delivery, on top is probably the last thing you're going to want to do?? Can't really comment though - still too damaged and in need of repair to contemplate bedroom antics!

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first1 · 26/03/2012 14:43

Oh carda, I really hope youre on the mend and that the bedroom stuff can resume soon for you!

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cardamomginger · 26/03/2012 15:11

Reckon we are looking at the autumn at the earliest .

IAmBooyhoo · 26/03/2012 15:14

on top is definitely more comfortable for me since having dcs. not sure why though but the control thing definitely helps.

cravingcake · 26/03/2012 21:01

I've found that being on top is definitely the only way for me now whereas before I had my DS i was not a fan.

I had a traumatic birth experience 5 months ago where I was flat on my back (had epidural) with forceps, end of the bed removed and a 4th degree tear. We've only managed it 3-4 times and thats only been recent but I absolutely hated being on my back as it just brought back horrible flashbacks.

I would agree that being on top gives control and also in no way brings back memories of giving birth.

33goingon64 · 26/03/2012 21:34

I have hardly ever been able to orgasm in missionary position. On top or from behind works for me now as it did before childbirth. No change really. It took about 6 months for me to feel completely normal with having sex again.

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first1 · 27/03/2012 16:54

This in interesting. I asked dp his thoughts and his response was "well I think we best practice just to make sure" I'm going to google...

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Fraktal · 27/03/2012 17:52

If you tore the angle of entry puts less pressure on the perineum on top....

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