Can someone just tell me that it will be ok?!

[melliebobs]

40+4 and starting to panic now and having proper little bouts of tears/anxiety. This is going to be dd1 and i am now quite frankly cacking myself. I always knew the day would come where i would have to get this little critter out, but now it's starting to freak me out! The overdue-ness isn't helping, constantly waiting for something to happen and having too much time on my hands to think. There's only so much you can read up on and i've stopped researching/reading/watching anything pregnancy related, and at the end of the day everyone's labour/birth is different. But I'm beginning to doubt myself now. I don't know what my pain threshold is. I don't know how well i'm going to cope. If at all!!! I know i have no option but to just get on with it, but i'm starting to get myself into a right bloomin' tiz it's just silly. I mean it can't be that bad right?! People go back and have #2, #3, #4 etc! ARGH please just tell me i'll be ok!?

You will be fine I am a little envious as we have finished having babies now so I won't ever get that amazing high and the snuggly newborn again

ally I was booked for induction at +12 days over. But I kicked off saying all their literature says it can happen naturally anytime between 37&42 weeks. So I'd like that chance please, especially as I've been low risk all the way through and apart from a uti had no problems. An appointment with a consultant and a scan later they said that was fine try a few sweeps and come back at 42+4 for monitoring and take it from there. Had 2 attempted sweeps and they were only able to do one yday and it doesn't look like that's worked so I've given up and have asked for an induction tommorow.

At the end of the day they can't force you to do anything you don't want to so I wasn't going to be bullied or guilt tripped into anything! God I'm stubborn. Sos this baby!

it will be fine! hope tomorrow goes well. just remember that whatever happens you are in very safe and competent hands. i was just like you beforehand and now spend my days watching one born every minute and getting broody! i must be mad! :)

I could swear I just posted...so apols if I repeat

With dd1 I had an epidural, very peaceful when it was done. With dd2 I had just g&a. I was induced both times with pessarys. The 2nd birth was amazing, I had double contractions (and survived them!), just lots of g&a (used that as my focus when I had a contraction, must have gone through a couple of canisters). There were times I thought I could not do it, but taking each contraction as it came helped, watching on the monitor the mountain of a contraction, then seeing it go down and the relief shortly after...the bits of conversation between, squeezing someone hands and having hugs...everyone urging you on...it was brilliant. When it came to pushing, they are not kidding, its a relief, the contractions stopped and pushing felt wonderful, best feeling in the world. Didn't care about anything else, must say I focussed on my dd1 at home, getting back to see her. Then I had a newborn in my arms and that was incredible.

Just remember each contraction has an end
A contraction is just a muscle working
A contraction does not last forever

And BREATHE through them, working muscles need lots of oxygen, don't hold your breath (tempting as it is).

It will be amazing, you will be well looked after, and you will have a beautiful baby at the end of it to snuggle.

You can do this, it will be okay.

Will think of you tomorrow, let us know how it goes or when your going in.

Be excited, this only happens once or twice or sometimes a few times more in a lifetime, its an amazing thing to happen to you :) (okay that could be pushing it a bit...being excited...I'm excited and wish it were me again!)

You can do it.

Allyx

Ally your post was amazing!

Mellie - best of luck! I'm very early days in my pregnancy, but I feel for you, I really do. Just remember - it's a primal thing, your body will take over. Trust in yourself, you will get through it. And I'm very inspired by your refusing to be pushed into an induction - I very much agree with you, and hope to have the same courage when it's my turn!

Funny, I'm not so scared of the contractions (and everyone on this thread has confirmed that they are there to help get your LO to you!) What I'm most scare of is the tearing at the end :( But I keep telling myself that's the last bit!

Mellie, I'm sorry to hijack! And I hope I haven't put thoughts in your head :( I wish we could be more like this, all the time, in society about positive birthing.

mellie i hope it's going ok! breathe!

Thanks batty, I was quite drunk so may of had rose wine tinted glasses on. But it was still brilliant :)

I had 2nd degree tear with dd1 and 2. I've healed. Both times I was on my back, but I do have a friend who got her dc3 out with an arm out too with no tears. So can be done. I know that was the reason I wanted an epidural 1st and 2nd time round, but I did it without 2nd time and it didn't matter when it happened. You know when you bump your knee you rub it to distract from the pain...its like that in birth, there is so much going on the discomfort (and that is all it is at the time) just doesn't register, then you have a newborn baby your trying not to drop in your arms and you don't really care. And like I said, you heal, its what the body is made to do. Its the thought of it that is more scary, just like giving birth. Want a book recommendation on positive birthing?

And still thinking of you mellie it will all be okay...maybe even have a baby now!! Or still waiting like I was...!

Hope all is going well mellie!

About the tearing, the thing is that everything is so stretched down there that you can't actually feel it when it happens. Also, you are so preoccupied with pushing and realising how close you are to having the baby in your arms that it doesn't really register what is happening until it's happened iyswim

Oh ladies, thanks so much - everything you said makes total sense!

Mellie, hope it's happening right now and you're being an absolute warrior

Still thinking of you! Let us know about your lo and how it all went...and if you would do it again...!

Allyx

My DD is 5 months now and I already cannot wait to have my second DC.

You will be fine, enjoy every minute of it.

Well the nutshell version (longer full length one on the 'overdue thread come snarl with me' in the pregnancy forum)

Went to be induced yesterday (wed) but had already gone into labour at 5am!!! Waters broke at 11. Ready to push at 4 and coping on g&a. Thought I was doing really well. Had internal just before pushing was only 2 cm Mws thought I was further & baby back to back. Had enough. Epidural put in. 10:30 went pear shaped. Decision made at 10:50 for Emcs under general anaesthetic. 11:10 baby was out.

Me on the other hand critical. Oxygen, nebuliser, anti biotics, iron, blood transfusion. Still haven't been moved from delivery but been downgraded now

Oh, Mellie, you poor, poor thing! But huge congrats on the birth of your baby - name? weight?

My DD was poorly when she was born by emcs and went straight to SCBU so I didn't see her for nearly 12 hours, and now as the weeks go by (6 weeks) I'm starting to realise that I am rather upset that I didn't get to see my daughter at once like you imagine birth to be. It is hard when your birth doesn't quite go to plan and something like this happens. I just wanted to tell you to take one day at a time, emotionally, and pay extra attention to how you feel because of this difficult time. But you are of course both in the best place possible.

Hope you get better soon and see your baby xx

Oh she's called Nancy Emily. And considering she was 17 days overdue just 7lb 15oz

Nancy Emily is a wonderful name :) yay for babies!
congratulations! and don't say "just" 7lb 15oz that's a great weight and you should be very proud of yourself.
hope you are getting lots of rest

aww congratulations,i always hope the person posting comes back to say what they have had,its like reading a book,i need to know the end :) love the name,i have an Emily :)

well you did incrediably well given the circumstances, well done you. Hope you feel proud of what you achieved and now you have your lovely snuggly girl, Nancy Emily is a lovely name. Nancy out of Swallows and Amazons?

How are things now? Are you well and out of hospital?

Allyx

I don't know where Nancy came from. But it sounds like a strong willed feisty kinda name so she'll live up to it I'm sure!

We are both STILL in hospital. Waiting for blood cultures to come back. They think Nancy might be brewing another infection. She's already on 2 daily visits to neo natal for meds. Could do without her picking something up & needing a longer course.

It's doing my head in. Partners are only allowed 12-8pm and I'd much rather be pissed off upset n frustrated in me own home that's for sure

Gosh, massive congratulations! Sorry that her birth was not really as planned and that you are both still in hospital

Nancy was that character in Swallows and Amazons :)

How does Nancy get her meds? Guessing its more than just a spoon of medicine?

The hospital stay was the worse bit for me both times...just can't sleep in hospital. I really feel for you...much better at home. Are you fit enough to be allowed home now? Or is it just Nancy who needs to be at hospital? Wondering if they can't do home visits to give her meds and take any samples...

Nancy had to have her meds through a cannula. She had it taken out Sunday afternoon and was told she was ready for discharge no further meds needed so I was like great let us go. But apparently after a cannula has been removed they have to a serve for 12-24hrs and my test results STILL hadn't come back

Today (Monday) I begged and pleaded the Mw to keep ringing the lab for my results. I was told that bloody cultures are grown for 96 hours so wouldn't be able to go home till Tuesday!!!!!! I threw the mother of all hissy fits. That how can hers be ready quicker than mine when they were the same tests taken at the same time? I didn't feel Ill. And if there was something wrong and I'd gone home ring me, I could go to my GP or go back and sort out the issue. Also being stuck on that bloody ward watching people come with their new babies or come in for a planned section and STILL leave before me was demoralising. I was cranky so Nancy was picking up on it and neither of us were settled and it's of no benefit to either of us being there. Poor Mw but I'd had enough! She rung the DR and they said as the results were negative so far chances of any change in the next 18 hours was minimal so they said I could go.

THANK GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 2:15 and I was out of there. It was amazing just to get some fresh air!!!!!

I did want to mention the problems I had getting discharged but did not want to dishearten you. I don't blame you for having a paddy, I nagged endlessly to get out, everytime any one in a uniform came near me 'when can we be discharged, I want to be discharged TODAY'...poor you. Must have been really hard to watch the comings and goings. And why did your bloods take so long compared to Nancy's?! Honestly, sometimes you have to be the noisy one to be heard above everyone else. Feeling quite cross for you!!

So I hope you get a good nights sleep...as good as you can get with a newborn. Be nice to go out for a walk tomorrow (or shuffle after c sec.) and see the daffodils :) lovely time of year to be born!

Allyx

Aww thanks. No idea why mine took longer. But also with it bring the weekend non of the systems had been updated so they had to call the labs direct.

But Being home has made all the difference. Had 4 good feeds cos I'm more relaxed and can get comfy. Didn't sleep brilliant but that's only cos I can't sleep on my side. But can't grumble at only being woken at midnight, 3:30 and 7:30 But definitely better to be home now just got to stay in till this Mw makes an appearance then a shuffle round the block for some fresh air will be required