muppety - the information I would want regarding your first delivery it what kind of pain relief did you have for labour? What position were you when you delivered? Were you in bed?
Shoulder dystocia can be 'caused' by delivering itn a propped up sitting position in bed where the sacrum is not able to move back to make space for the baby to descend properly.
Shoulder dystocia is where the bony anterior shoulder of the baby gets trapped above the symphisis pubis of the mother's pelvis. An episiotomy will actually not help this situation. It is only helpful if you need to make more space to put a hand in to help the baby's shoulders rotate.
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Shoulder dystocia ia a real emergency that is frightening for both the mother and the midwife.
Adopting a position for birth like all fours gives the baby more room. Also a natural lablour tends to progress better than an induced one. Size is baby not the only factor to be considered with shoulder dystocia as it can happen with 'normal sized' babies.
For some women C/S is the type of delivery they would choose next time round. There is no right or wrong approach - it all depends on how the mother feels. The risk of recurrence however is at least 10% so options for subsequent delivery do need to be carefully considered.
Shoulder dystocia is an increased risk with an instrumental delivery (ventouse/forceps) as the shoulders may not come into the pelvis in the correct position. Prolonged second stage is often a result of havng an epidural.
If you can avoid these predisposing factors then the risk of SD lowers. There are other signs such as baby's head advancing really slowly and retracting between contractions.
It may be that labour should spontaneous with good progress of descent of baby. Where signs are that progress is slow then a C/S should be resorted to earlier than later. Definately all staff attending women in labour should have training in the maneoevres that have been shown to help deliver a baby that has got 'stuck'
Each discussion needs to be on anindividual basis with your own obstetrician/midwife.
Hope the link is helpful and not TMI!