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Terrified of second baby and giving birth

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beachavendrea · 07/02/2012 05:44

Hi I'm hoping someone can offer some advice. My ds is almost two and towards the end of the year we are thinking about getting pregnant again.

The problem is I am terrified of giving birth again and going through the whole new baby thing. I am not a fan of the new born stage!

I had serious complications last time, my epistomoy got infected, burst open and I had to have emergency reconstruction surgery. I have a massive scar that even two years later I can't really touch or look at.

Every time a get a fever I freak out, I am currently sick now, and broke down and cried this afternoon in complete fear and panic. A fever was the first sign that something was seriously wrong and I ignored it.

I also had pnd which I had a hard time dealing with but I am now okay.

I have tried coucelling and really thought I had made peace with all the issues around my ds birth last time, but obviously not!

Does anyone have any suggestions on how they got over bad birth/ new born experiences? I would like to go into the conception process with positivity, not dread.

any advice gratefully received xxx

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IHeartIona · 07/02/2012 08:52

Hi there, poor you, sounds horrible. Have you done the birth reflections thing with your hospital to go through your notes and review the birth? I believe that can really help as a midwife who was not involved will give you their input and you can then have some pointers to take away for next time to plan the birth. Good luck!

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