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To tell DH or not to tell...?

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BunnyBear · 03/02/2012 13:17

Hi lovely ladies,

This is my first ever post - and I can't believe what I'm going to ask!!

I am going in for an ARM tomorrow (will be 41 weeks) DS was born 8 years ago by planned C Section because he was breech, so my DH hasn't ever experienced the 'reality' of labour (and, of course, neither have I!)

So, my question is this.....having read a thread further down the page I realise that there is a probability of me pooing during labour - eek! DH and I have been married 12 years, but always lock our bathroom door and keep those particular activities very private. I know he'll be utterly horrified (as will I!) if it happens, so do I forewarn him of the possibility - or say nothing and hope I'm in the extremely small minority who don't....?

Sorry ladies - what a silly post! Sure it's the last thing I should be worried about - but can't help it! I've never even broken wind in front of him so this fills me with horror!!

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sheeplikessleep · 04/02/2012 21:55

Regretting last post now. I'd tell your dh if I were you, it is normal. Tbh though I think all 'norms' go out of the window during labour. If you are really uncomfy, you could always ask him to stay at the head end during pushing stage?

Unofficialpeacekeeper · 04/02/2012 21:59

I didn't poo with any of my 5 if that helps.

thelennox · 04/02/2012 22:06

I pooed with 1st and 3rd. Fine with 1st no embarrassment but with 3rd baby was stuck, in distress and so many people in room with alarms going off and desperately prepping me for surgery that they didn't clean away one of the poops. Poor dh tried to move my leg so it wouldn't get covered and supposedly I bit him?! Disclaimer: I had never experienced pain like that before, the pain of constant contractions, pushing and stuck baby. We now refer to it as my twilight moment! But he still loves me! Don't worry about the poo. Good luck x
Ps dc 3 was grand and everyone was wonderful in the end.

FutureNannyOgg · 04/02/2012 22:19

You know when you have the lessons at school about the consequences of unprotected sex? Why do they not mention this? Pooing, vomiting, tearing, all the stuff that happens during pregnancy that no one mentions until you're in the midst of it and they go "oh yeah, did no one tell you that?" (when I went to AN classes before DS they didn't even mention transition). They'll show teenagers photos of syphilitic penises, but no one tells you until it's too late exactly what happens when a baby emerges into the world
I'm starting a campaign, it's not fair.

ahhhhhpushit · 04/02/2012 22:28

I pooed and vommed. Seckshy

ayearoverdue · 04/02/2012 23:22

I pooed, I knew I did coz I smelt it and then I saw MW lunge for some tissue paper. I threw up a lot and according to my best friend who was down the business end, I pushed out 3 haemorrhoids. My DP was at the head end the whole time I was pushing, he was busy mopping my brow and making me sip water on the MW's orders. I'd made it very clear he was not seeing down there!

The MW's were telling me to push down into my bum, so it seems logical that something may come out. I hadn't eaten in over 24hrs so there wasn't a lot in there.

ayearoverdue · 04/02/2012 23:23

Just realised that you were going in today for ARM, really hope it went well for you and that DC has arrived safely.

kelly2000 · 06/02/2012 02:39

why not get him a book for expectant fathers. My DH has one and in it it brings this topic up and says quite clearly they are never to mention or acknowledge it, not even to say its not a big deal.

NotjustaMummy · 06/02/2012 02:48

DH described mine as " fluttering chocolate buttons"! I had a water birth. The midwife had to point out the head in the mirror several times before he realised what he was looking at though...

CheerfulYank · 06/02/2012 03:15

Honestly, we should share this thread with teenagers. I agree with Nanny! They'll think twice about that condom after this... :o

I don't think I pooed but I guess I wouldn't know. DH says I didn't.

RubyrooUK · 06/02/2012 22:01

Bunny don't keep us in suspense! Did you poo? And how is everything with your new baby? Do update us.....

ayearoverdue · 08/02/2012 11:06

I'm watching for an update too! :)

Rollersara · 09/02/2012 15:28

DP was similar, I realised and was very embarrassed but he said having his daughter was the most amaz

Rollersara · 09/02/2012 15:32

Sorry! ... thing he could ever experience and a bit of poo made no difference.

However, he also felt the need to point out that I really screamed during the ventouse assisted delivery because I "have a low pain threshold"!

NatashaBee · 09/02/2012 15:34

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enjoyingscience · 09/02/2012 18:07

I kept DP at the head end (well, the opposite side of the bed I was kneeling against) for brow mopping duty. Would have been quite dignified if I hadn't shouted 'I'm doooooing a poooooooo' at him and cried.

The midwife was very discreet, shame about me!

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