Can I just run my birth ideas past you so I can get some opinions please? My DP works away for 8 weeks at a time.
DP is due home the day after I am due. We always knew there was a chance that he would be away and its a bit sad but we're fine with it. This is DP's first DC and my third. DS1 was 2 days late and DS2 was born on his due date. So if they are following a pattern this one will be 2 days early 
I would really like this one at home, I had DS2 at home and it was brilliant. But I am thinking that there will be the 2 boys at home. Hopefully in bed asleep or DS1 will at school and its just DS2 to worry about. I am not sure about birth partners yet. Probably be my Mum or my best friend. It does feel a bit weird thinking it will be one of them.
The other option is the new midwife led unit nearby. I say nearby but its about 30 minutes away. An hour at rush hour. I am tempted as I don't think I will be worrying about the boys as they will be with their Dad or my Dad etc Also they have birth pools and I would love to have a water birth. They say that they aim to get people home between 2-6 hours after birth which would be lovely. But there is the problem that it is at the hospital where I had DS1 and I have said that unless I was about to die I never wanted to set foot in there again as a patient. But I suppose it isn't the same ward. Its next to it but its not the same IYSWIM
If I knew DP would definetly be at home there is no way I would even be considering going to the MLU and I would be having this one at home. But there is no guarentee that he will be here. But its that thought the boys will be here and I will be worrying about them. DS1's best friends Mum has said that if I need her even in the middle of the night then I can just ring her.
My Dad is going to come up and stay locally for a week so he is about should he be needed to have the boys and so he can meet the baby if it comes before or while he is here.
So what on earth do I do??