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Should i have a C-section for dd4? Help me decide please

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runaroundstartsnow · 30/12/2011 20:02

With DD1 i had a crash section,dd and I 5mins from death according to consultant.I had pre-eclampsia a 28hr labour with a nasty midwife(she got struck off) and a placental abruption.
DD2 pushed for hours and DD would not come out, ended up with forceps and 2nd degree tear.
DD3 was supposed to be home birth, i got to 9cms and then started to go backwards, got transfered to hospital and when examined was only 6cms again. Once again pushed for hours before dd came out..had midwife threatening me with ventouse. Ended up with 3rd degree tear and was stitched up for well over an hour.
Loads of my scar tissue split so i need re-stitching as i have hardly any perineum. Also have problems with wind control,wiping and urgency issues.
Physio thinks i should have a c-section but consultants just say they will fix me after the birth so no worries....they will do a section if i insist though.
Do i keep insisting?

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Northernlurker · 30/12/2011 20:06

Hell yes! So basically your history is that your body has never totally cracked this birthing thing and with two lots of scar tissue plus a previous abruption and c-section scar they think you should go again? You can tell it's not your consultants pelvic floor in jopardy can't you?
Personally I think you have to say enoughs enough. I've had three episiotomys (my body can do the birthing thing but gets totally stuck when it comes to stretching....) and a desire not to further traumatise that area was a factor in deciding three kids was enough for us.

eachpeach80 · 30/12/2011 20:08

yes. insist. afaik there is not a great deal they can do for bowel incontinence (including wind control and urgency). if they say they can fix you after then i would ask precisely what surgery they would perform, success rate, complications etc, and the same questions if your symptoms are worse after another vaginal delivery. good luck.

lukewarmMulledWhine · 30/12/2011 20:13

Good god yes. Your 1 and 2 sound a bit like my two births, which is largely why I haven't gone for 3 - but if I did it would defo be an elcs.

Don't worry about 'insisting', its your body and you are the one who as to be fit and able to look after 4 kids, as well as have a decent quality of life for yourself. Insist away, if it's what you want.

Callipo · 30/12/2011 20:19

section. insist. will also make childcare/planning easier.

MissBeehivingUnderTheMistletoe · 30/12/2011 20:21

Bloody hell. YES

FestiveFriedaWassailsAgain · 30/12/2011 20:21

I would definitely go for the Csection myself. Your poor pelvic floor has suffered enough.

Callipo · 30/12/2011 20:23

though in the interest of balance will also make first 4 weeks a bit uncomfy.
but i say tearing your perineum in half and being knackered aint all that comfy either...

but on a serious note, at least you wont then be terrified for the rest of the pregnancy (your last?) and can enjoy it

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runaroundstartsnow · 30/12/2011 20:26

Thanks, 1st 2 Drs spent ages telling me i would be fine with a 'normal' birth.
Finally saw consultant and she tried to talk me out of section.She then booked it but very close to my due date and said if i go into labour i could just give it a go. Then she spent 20mins trying to talk me out of a section.I was so stressed by end of apt i was really doubting my decision.
Whenever i see a DR, midwife etc they try and talk me into doing it normally.
The womens health physio is the only one who thinks a section is not a good idea.She wants me scanned and my perineum mended at some point anyway and can't believe they are giving me grief about having a section when i still have symptoms.
However i now go into a semi panic when i have my midwife checks as they always start with " are you sure about a section?" I have checks every week as im an eclampsia risk so i have been asked this every week for the last 2 months

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lukewarmMulledWhine · 30/12/2011 20:29

One thought I just had, is if you need a restitch anyway, would it be possible to get it done immediately after childbirth (or c section)? Would mean only one bout of pain rather than two maybe?

Sarahplane · 30/12/2011 21:09

If I were you I'd have a c section and I'm usually all for trying naturally but with your history I wouldn't want to risk any further damage. Try to organise as much help for after the cs as possible because you'll need to rest and recover and with 4 kids that won't be easy (although you've probably already thought of that). At least with a planned c section arranging help in advance will be a lot easier.

MyDogAteMyMincePies · 30/12/2011 21:27

Bloody hell!! After having my DD (I had 3rd degree tears) I was told if I fall pregnant again I would have to have a camera to check if I can give birth vaginally.

I would go back to your physio and explain what's going on. Maybe he/she can stand your corner.

Personally I would opt for a c section. Stand your ground, don't let them bully you. Perhaps your DP/DH could go to your appointments to back you up?

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runaroundstartsnow · 31/12/2011 19:07

Thank you everyone, you have helped my resolve no end.I will continue insisting on my section despite the nagging

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thejaffacakesareonme · 01/01/2012 11:41

I'd be tempted to ask the consultants what they would want for themselves or their partner / wife as appropriate!

Meglet · 01/01/2012 11:45

yes. But make sure you have LOTS of help afterwards so you can recover properly.

LynetteScavo · 01/01/2012 11:49

Blimey! You are very brave even to be having another baby!

I think c-section is the way to go.

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