Pissed off because they WON'T induce me. Come and talk sense at me

[GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy]

Am 39 weeks and this pregnancy has always been down as high risk. I have a high BMI so they've monitored me for GD, pre-eclampsia, polyhydramnious, you name it, they've tried to pin it on me. Because of this, it's always been said that they would never let me go over 40 weeks. Baby was 'measuring' 7lb 8oz at 36 weeks, so big baby was another reason to induce me. I was induced with DD, I know how it works, so was psyched up to be called in next week.

Today they finally admit there is nothing wrong with me, that I obviously just have big babies. And crucially, that unless problems present themselves or I beat them to it, they won't take any action until 40+12 like everybody else. I know it's crazy, it's good that there's not a problem, of course. But the thought of 2 extra weeks is a total headfuck when I'd always been told I would have no longer than 40 weeks.. I don't think I can bear 3 more weeks of this. I'll have been off work for over 2 months by the time she arrives, I'm going out of my skull.

I know I'm stupid, feel free to come and tell me how stupid I'm being, I need a kick up the arse but I feel so pissed off :(

I don't think your being stupid, it is a bit of a head fuck. BUT it's likely that you won't go that far over, so try and be positive about that. I went 9 days over with first baby a few weeks ago and was going out of my mind, but spontaneous labour happened and I was convinced it wouldn't!! It's true, going overdue ain't no picnic but there's no reason to suggest that you will. And if you do, you will cope and get through it and forget about as soon as baby arrives!! Just try and relax and rest and do all those things that people tell you to do that gets on your nerves because all you want to do is not be pregnant any more!!

Agree with Roz, just because they are willing to let you go over by 12 days doesn't mean you will. Plenty of people (myself included) have their first baby on or before due date, and from what I've read being induced isn't a pleasant experience, so hopefully you will go into labour spontaneously. If it's any consolation, I really missed being pregnant by the time ds was a few week old, despite hating it while I was still pregnant!!

Induction is horrible, just horrible. Don't do it without a very good reason. You baby will come when it is good and ready and not before.

What Spatone said. By not being induced you'll have a much better chance of avoiding intervention - which means your chance of needing an epidural, episiotomy, instrumental birth, EMCS or having a PPH or retained placenta are much reduced too :)

Think of it this way:

3 weeks more pregnancy (max) = better chance of spontaneous abour and birth - smaller chance of intervention than with induction = shorter recovery period

Induction soon - increased chance of intervention = longer recovery period with a newborn to look after

You know this, and at long last you've got the medics to actually believe there's nothing bloody wrong with you so you've got to find SOMETHING to complain about, you're heavily pregnant - it's the rule You're not being stupid, I can see why it must be a headfuck.

induction is unatural and very unpleasant. hopefully your baby will come naturally before that time :)