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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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socks4 · 27/12/2011 07:56

I was told I had forceps due to not having my baby delivered in the hour of being 10 cms I was never told this in fact my MW did not support me at all and also when I over heard the MW speak to the doc about using forceps I freaked out nothing was explained to me and I have had a de brief etc can anybody help my contraction were 3 in 10 whatever this means my MW said just that nothing was explained and my husband has no idea why they were used as well now I have ptsd and a 4th degree tear ...... thanks ladies

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StNicksNackered · 27/12/2011 08:31

Don't mean to be rude but if you re-post using some full stops and paragraphs you might get more answers. I'm afraid I can't make out your post very well at the moment.

namechangerbat · 27/12/2011 08:33

What stnick said ^

HeadsRollingInTheAisles · 27/12/2011 08:34

I think your post makes sense. It sounds very traumatic and I'm sorry that happened to you. I don't have enough experience to answer your questions but there's some great people on the 'ragged bits' thread that might be able to help.

HeadsRollingInTheAisles · 27/12/2011 08:37

God, how about a bit of compassion, it's hardly difficult to imagine where the full stops should be. On ipad or I'd repost it for you but I'm thinking you'd have nothing helpful to say anyway.

CuppaTeaJanice · 27/12/2011 08:47

What sort of forceps did you have - wrigleys, neville barnes or keillands? It should say on your discharge notes, along with the reason they were used, eg. failure to progress, baby in distress, maternal exhaustion etc.

Were you given an episiotomy first? This would be normal with a forceps delivery to avoid bad tears.

3 in 10 means 3 contractions in 10 minutes.

Are you seeing anybody about your ptsd? Sounds like you need to understand and resolve the issues about the birth if you are to recover and enjoy being a parent. I hope you get some help with this.

NotCravingChristmasCake · 27/12/2011 08:55

Just want to add to what Headsrolling & Cuppatea have posted. Ask to see your notes and check out the ragged bits thread in general health section. I too had forceps & 4th degree tear and understand the thoughts of why did this happen to me and how it can make post natel depression worse. I'm not suffering with that but cant think too long about the birth without getting upset, but i'm seeing a counsellor in january.

Lulumama · 27/12/2011 09:49

was this your first baby? Usually, 2 hours is ok for pushing baby out with a first , IIRC. Did you have an epidural?

you need to have everything explained to you again.. when did you have your baby ? Uou can contact the hospital and PALS can help you get an appt with someone to debrief.

4th degree tear is serious and you sound like you've had a dreadful time.

so sorry to hear this, the birth trauma association should be able to assist you and your GP/MW too. you could ask to be referred for some counselling

i feel that if you knew why you had forceps and exactly what happened would help you move forward though

no-one should leave hospital post c.section or instrumental delivery without understanding exactly why it happened

forceps are usually used if the baby is not descending due to malpositioning of the head , the forceps are used to help rotate and then deliver the baby

good luck with finding out what's what and moving forward

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socks4 · 27/12/2011 10:23

sorry for not posting full stops ladies but it is not hard to see were they belong. My notes say I was pushingwell and then not pushing well I have just started t have therapy for trauma, I had barnes neville forceps. The birth has left me with awful trauma resulting in me getting a colostomy bag!!!! in Feb.

Everyone has ingnored me for months and my marriage has nearly ended due to getting no support never mind full stops my head is screwed up and im sorry for even posting this. This is a very serious matter and sorry for spelling typos my brain is full of trauma. I did have an an epidural and my tear went unnoticed as well I will check the other thread thanks.

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Spatone · 27/12/2011 15:27

I'm sorry socks4 that you had such a bad time. It is difficult to say why you had a forceps delivery from what you have written. But I am glad you are getting the help that you need. It is important that your partner also finds someone he can talk to. He watched you go through this and many men find that so difficult to deal with.

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 27/12/2011 15:31

You poor thing. I am so sorry this happened to you, and that you got such a snarky response from the first couple of posters. I hope the therapy helps. Have you got lots of support now, or are you still struggling on alone?

HeadsRollingInTheAisles · 27/12/2011 16:57

Don't stop posting because of the Grammar Police, Socks, most people want to help, you just got the two useless ones posting first!

eurochick · 27/12/2011 17:29

There is a time and a place to police grammar ladies!

I'm sorry you had this awful experience.

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