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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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handholding..sister in labour..

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EdlessAllenPoe · 20/12/2011 13:58

since 8am this morning!
last heard having a bath

paces<

more nervous than i was about my own. the longest my labours have ever taken is 5 hours...

worried

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carocaro · 20/12/2011 14:19

Ah so sweet you are pacing, hold my hand! You know how it is in hospital you can't communicate with the outside world easily. Keep us posted.

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EdlessAllenPoe · 20/12/2011 14:26

she's at home so far...she planned a homebirth but with a low-threshold for transfer ...>wrings hands<

if i remember right, i found it pretty annoying when people buggered off to do other things whilst i was in labour, so i'm not suprised mum hasn't rung...

i tried to have a snooze but couldn't...(but then i had a sleepless night when Nickel had hers, and this is my sister!..)

i jut want the call to say 'mother and baby doing well' you know...

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JingleyBalls · 20/12/2011 14:29

Oh how exciting for her, is it her first?

How are you doing btw?

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EdlessAllenPoe · 20/12/2011 15:22

it's her first..long awaited after years of TTC...

i hope she's ok!
currently i am cuddling my DDs who are sick with Pox under a nice quilt...

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PreHeatedOven · 20/12/2011 15:23

Oh g

PreHeatedOven · 20/12/2011 15:24

Oh good luck! Hope all is well her end and hope your dc recover from
the pox ASAP your end x

PreHeatedOven · 20/12/2011 15:25

Sorry phone has a life of its own!

naturalbaby · 20/12/2011 15:32

is she far away? there should be a baby soon now?
how exciting, can't wait till my sister has a baby!

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EdlessAllenPoe · 20/12/2011 16:28

oh no, nother call from mother, she's at 6-7 cm and baby is still slightly OP and turning..

they've sent a mw to get some pethidine cos she's yelling in pain :(

sick with worry

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JingleyBalls · 20/12/2011 18:20

Your poor sister, hope it is over soon for her.

Two little poxed children for Christmas :( Hope they are less itchy by Sunday.

Flisspaps · 20/12/2011 18:40

She'll be doing just fine and will have a lovely newborn before the night is out - hooray!

6-7cm and a slightly OP baby - I'm not surprised she's bloody yelling.

Go on EdlessAllenPoe's sister!

naturalbaby · 20/12/2011 19:16

any more news? hope baby is out soon.

mumatron · 20/12/2011 19:35

Any news?

Hope all is well.

Northernlurker · 20/12/2011 19:37

6-7cm will have you yelling alright! Hope you get some good news soon.

lucky24 · 20/12/2011 20:23

Good luck to your sister, any news?

"baby is still slightly OP and turning.." what does this mean?

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EdlessAllenPoe · 21/12/2011 19:01

Baby was fully OP apparently!!! that is back to back
and nine pounds nine FFS.

biggest baby in my family yet. a girl called Penelope.

poor sister :( got the call at 2 in the morning she had transferred in for 'failure to progress..stuck at 7cm for three hours..., forceps delivery. according to mother she fought like a trojian to get the baby out, propped up next to mum.came out with hand next t head and still back to back..

they now have her in hospital where she's finding it hard to feed...(together with stupid 'no discharge until feeding well' policy)

she is very sore though and probably needs to stay put overnight.

two questions: my daughter has chicken pox, am i safe to visit (without daughter) i have had it already.
and : what's the best feeding help to get whist in hospital?

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EdlessAllenPoe · 21/12/2011 19:03

i am glad to be an auntie, and happy my sister has a baby after trying so long to get it. I just wish this didn't have to be so hard on her. maybe once i've had some sleep i'll feel better

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Bunbaker · 21/12/2011 19:08

"together with stupid 'no discharge until feeding well' "

Sorry, but that is not a stupid policy at all. It is very sensible. DD wouldn't latch on for several days when she was born and I was jolly grateful that the hospital had this policy or she would have starved. The breastfeeding support and advice I received in hospital was invaluable and by the time we were discharged DD was feeding well.

Congratulations on being an auntie BTW.

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2011 19:08

oh well done her!

my second was back to back, and 9lb 5... they're buggers aren't they!?

I would imagine, fi you have had the pox, that it would be absolutely fine for you to visit, but am sure others will agree/disagree with that as necessary

breastfeeding-wise.. depends! she may be lucky enough to be in a hospital that has good on-site support. if not then I would start looking at local breastfeding groups... LLL or NCT or whatever. NCT won't come out unless the mum phones (at least that was my experience) but it's def worth ringing around.
Do you have any breastfeeding experience yourself? if so then you'll be able to give some support i'm sure :)

where is she? just roughly? someone on here may be able to point you in the direction of a good BFC

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2011 19:10

it is a good policy, as long as it's backed up with decent feeding support

i had terrible advice from midwives when I had ds1. he refused to feed at all. no-one helped me express, or told me where the stuff was or how often to do it.
they all tried pushing him onto the breast, and all told me to give formula

in the end I got discharged (on the 4th day) by saying i'd bottle feed him.
went home, got a breastpump and managed to get him back on the breast myself by day 10... but i am v. stubborn like that!

Flisspaps · 21/12/2011 19:13

Your sister may find it easier to feed in the comfort of her own home - they cannot keep her or the baby in. The main thing she can do is keep trying, the milk wont come in for another couple of days yet so Penelope will get what she needs from the tiniest amount of colostrum

Do you have a BF support team there? Often they are more helpful than busy MWs, and can come and visit or just talk on the phone.

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 21/12/2011 19:14

It's a stupid policy if you don't get any help . If I had been discharged, the help I could have got outside would have enabled me to bf. As it is, I was kept in hospital with no support and dd was ff.

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 21/12/2011 19:15

And huge congratulations to your sister! A snuggly Christmas baby :)

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EdlessAllenPoe · 21/12/2011 19:27

and she will, of course :)

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EdlessAllenPoe · 21/12/2011 19:29

they haven't given her any support. my mum helped her. stupid policy - they don't have the staffing to back it up (or the will). at home she will have 24 hr support from her DP. and privacy.

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