bowel incontience

[soapy4]

Anyone else suffering with bowel incontience?

Little bump for you soapy

I suffered for 2 months after the birth of DD (Keillands forceps) but still have some ongoing issues with urgency. My biggest regret is not asking for help at the time, I'm now having an exploratory procedure to try to identify any permanent damage .

If you are suffering, PLEASE see your GP and don't be fobbed off until you have a referral to a specialist.

Have you very recently given birth Soapy?

I was a little bowel incontinent after DS was born - I had ventouse, forceps, episiotomy & tore & my nether regions were a real mess. However, it improved very quickly & hasn't been an ongoing problem.
If you haven't just given birth & this is ongoing, then you definitely need to go & talk to the doctor.

I've seen you on other threads soapy. Are things no better?

Hi there, does anyone have pain down at the entrance were you would have sex? just made appointment to see my consultant and the DR who did this mess to me ..... baby is 8 months old im having a stoma/repair in new year ..... went to doctors with a letter but no help given ........my marriage is nearly over now and the pain is awful kellykettle things are really bad im fainting alot as well stress stress stress how is your baby?? many congrats

Oh Soapy that's awful. Who is going with you to your appointment? How are things with DH?

I had pain at the entrance to my vagina after my tear. I didn't attempt sex for a year. It was a huge strain on my marriage.

I saw a gynae who said I'd been stitched too tightly (I'm paraphrasing a bit there). She offered to snip/cut it but I gave that a miss and gave dilators a try. I didn't get very far and after some counselling and some massage of my scar with sweet almond oil it all improved.

Have you got anywhere with counselling yet?

Soapy, there isn't much a GP can do, other than refer you to the appropriate consultant. If the pain is very acute, make sure you get a prescription for painkillers & see if you can get an urgent referral to the consultant. Be prepared to argue your case, if your GP is reluctant to make the referral urgent.

I'm not sure from your post what is causing the fainting, but if that is something separate to the bowel incontinence then there may be something the GP could do for that.

Hi op im waiting on an infusion for the pain if that fails I have will steriods injections kelly me dh that is another story im attending the appointment alone why do I have pain around the entrance!!!!!! and other places it is nerve and tissue damage, im havin surgery/stoma op after xmas

Soapy you need to see a consultant - someone who specialises in this kind of thing. Go to your GP and insist that they refer you.

I had an episiotomy breakdown and had to go back in for a repair op, and because I was re-admitted I got really good aftercare.

I had tissue cut away in the op and following this had pretty bad continence problems for about two/three months. I had physiotherapy and also had the tests Herethereandeverywhere is talking about and saw the continence specialist. He told me that things can improve for about a year after the baby is born in terms of continence. Now I just have urgency. I believe if you are left incontinent there is an operation they can do.

Because I had a great consultant she told me that I needed to try having sex and let her know if there was any problem when I went for my three month check. If there had been she could have taken steps to fix it - I think some kind of re-stitch?

Feel really sad for you that you have slipped through the system and have suffered this for so long with no help :(

Pain around the entrance could be scar tissue from your tear.

Soapy I know your GP was crap last time but please insist on a proper debrief and some counselling. It will make a huge difference.

DB how are you? It's been a while since we chatted on other thread.

Ps soapy thanks for asking about DD2. she's 5 weeks now and a bit of a colicky nightmare but very cute so she's mostly forgiven

Im just on the list for counselling it will take a while gp has been rubbish I had a debrief also my tear was just unnoticed would like to have sex I feel like a stranger in another body and no longer know who I am great news about baby kelllykettle this life is awful for us ladies thanks ladies.

Is sex impossible or just uncomfortable? Things that helped me to have sex again were lubrication, taking our time and wine! Only a bit though, not getting plastered.

Great news about the counselling. It will make a world of difference you know. But you're right, we shouldn't be in this state in the first place.

kellykettle I have not even tried sex it is painful down there to touch even never mind sex my operation for stoma/repair is for after xmas im scared to even have sex due to pain/trauma etc how long for everyone to have sex again!!!!

kellykettle were did you get the oil from? how often did you use it I might try it

Rufousbartleby my problem is my anal sphincter is gone!!!!! no exercise can regain it back

DB, Im not great what about you these days? dd is now crawling and getting big I cannot wait to see the dr who did this mess and tell him how I feel etc this will help me big time.

It helped me to have a rant and a cry at the consultant too Soapy. It helped to hear him say he got it wrong.

Soapy, I have no internal sphincter either. Well, it's torn and atrophied so I might as well not have one - it doesn't work. At 7 months post birth I was still experiencing problems and pain. I returned to work 12 months post birth and had improved but still had problems.

By two years i felt normal again (with a repair surgery). I am sure I will deteriorate in the future but right now I'm doing fine.

You can buy sweet almond oil in Boots & Holland & Barrett. I used it to massage my scar tissue in the shower each day. I'd say I improved even in the first week.

I didn't really attempt sex until about a year after DD1 was born so I think you're doing well at 8 months!

kellykettle thanks and yes it will help me to have a good rant and let him know how wrong he got it and let him see my pain and tears been thinking of doing this for some time now im ready but nervous and angry but it will help a bit, will go to boots today for the oil thanks!