Husband's opinion and support regarding mode of delivery

[DanceLikeTheWind]

how many women faced opposition from their husbands regarding a planned c section for non medical reasons? Would you go along with your choice regardless of his preference?(assuming he didn't support you despite persuasion and discussions)

How many women would change their mode of delivery if their husband opposed it?

(I want a c section due to a family history of incontinence and erb's palsy. I also have psychological problems)

I paid for private care with my second child (for completely different reasons - I wanted to avoid another CS.) I can honestly say it was the best money I have ever spent. You don't ever get the first few hours with you baby again. If you want or need a hospital birth I'd be paying if I could afford it. Your husband maybe needs a little helping along from a more experienced friend to persuade him that having got you pregnant his job is to back you all the way. Every new father I have ever met has had a completely different view of their partner after the birth - sometimes it would be helpful if they could get that opinion before the birth!

pootlebug, it depends on exactly what her fears are and how she feels she will be treated by NHS staff (eg, whether she perceives a negative reaction about choosing to have an ELCS and whether the privacy of a private room is a big deal to her. If she feels judged for having a CS which she has stated in another thread the prospect of spending any time on a ward, may be difficult for her. Yes, its a lot of money, but equally if she's this set on it, her husband should be considering her mental health before his wallet.

Re family history of prolapse: I have a strong family history of prolapse but shrugged that off prior to having DC1 vaginally. Cue prolapse for me too.

This time around I spoke to a consultant about the benefits of c/s over vaginal birth.

I was told that c/s would have made a difference first time around but was unlikely to prevent further damage in my case because once you have one vaginal delivery the damage is already done.

My consultant seemed to think there would have been a decent medical case for an ELCS had I approached her when pregnant with DC1. So don't let yourself be made to feel bad for raising this, and trying to take preventative measures to avoid prolapse - actually it is pretty sensible if your family history is like mine.

I originally wanted a HB but DH was terrified at the prospect of something going wrong. We compromised on an MLU delivery.