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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

Did you regret having an epidural?

103 replies

Sleepy27 · 08/10/2011 16:53

Baby is due in a couple of weeks and thinking about pain relief I just wondered if the cons of having an epidural led to Mums wishing they hadn't had one. Apart from it being administered wrongly, if it is done right, what would put you off doing it again?

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Hopingforastickyone · 16/10/2011 18:31

Absolutely no regrets. Epidural was administered at same time as syntocinon drip and labour lasted 5 hrs. It was a breeze from start to finish.

If an epidural is administered properly you will still feel the urge to push without the pain. Never had a catheter.

The latest research indicates that while epidurals may prolong the third stage of labour (pushing), they do not increase your risks of a c-section. That is old drivel based on outdated research.

Best thing to do is to keep your options open. It is so important to go into labour with an open mindset.

working9while5 · 16/10/2011 22:38

I ended up with an instrumental delivery as my little man got stuck.. but I don't blame the epidural, I blame having to be induced after SROM + 24 hrs. I was mobile and on all fours for pushing but had deep transverse arrest. Would this have happened without epi? Maybe not. Who knows? But I also had my uterus hyperstimulated and I am glad I didn't experience this without an epidural.

I would have one again if I felt the need.

grumplestilskin · 16/10/2011 22:40

NOOOO no I don't regret it! no not one bit!

sunnyday123 · 16/10/2011 22:55

i dont regret it - i had a long painful labour with my first and once it kicked in it was fab! We had no problems (or stress!) with the birth and watched TV right to the end! It also wore off within mins and i was up in the shower within 1/2 hour. However i didnt have one with second (did ask but staff shortages) and preferred the labour - but then it was only 2 hours! I would have one again if i felt i needed but would try to not have one in the future - i actually remember every bit of pushing dd2 out and not in a bad way!

MaMattoo · 16/10/2011 23:03

Not at all. Had an em cs. It was done perfectly, worked perfectly and catheters are very okay things, don't hurt, don't feel strange. Nothing.
I thank god that someone designed an epidural! It's magic. Why suffer what's meant to be a beautiful adrenalin pumping experience that you waited for for 9 months.

Don't close your mind:)

Queenofthehill · 16/10/2011 23:07

I had an epidural. I have no idea if it worked because the dozy midwives didn't examine me first, thinking I was nowhere near birth, and it meant I had to sit still for a needle to be inserted in my back during transition - great because DS was born 15 minutes later. [hhmm] The anaesthetist then came back to see how I was getting on and looked bemused to see me breastfeeding a newborn!

23balloons · 16/10/2011 23:12

No regrets at all - would have another if got preganant again without question!!

Daisybell1 · 16/10/2011 23:14

Heavens no! I was induced and managed 5hrs on the drip before requesting one, was managing ok at the time, but they needed to crank the drip up to full plus my BP was very high and the epi helped lower it.

It was bloody marvellous, I could still walk, sit on my birthing ball, go to the loo etc etc. In the end I needed a section but that was due to my complete failure to dilate, not the epi. The section was calm, and recovery has been really quick which i'm sure is due to being pain free and well rested before hand.

Rikalaily · 17/10/2011 08:29

I regretted it with my first, I had two both of which were botched (first didn't work at all and 2nd punctured my spane so was laid up and had to have an op to fix it). But I did need the pain relief at the time.

I didn't have one with my 2nd, stayed at home until it was too late but didn't need more than g&a anyway.

I had one with my 3rd after severe failure to progress after being in labour all day, needed 7 hours on the drip to get to 10cm and there was no way I was doing that without an epidural.

Didn't have one with my 4th, again stayed at home until the last minute and didn't even need g&a as it was hardly painful at all (still grabbed the g&a as I pushed though as I love the stuff so didn't want to miss out hehe).

SootySweepandSue · 17/10/2011 08:41

I was induced and my baby was back to back (therefore scrapping down my spine which felt a bit like being chopped in 2 with an axe), so I was glad about it and infact had several top ups.

I managed to push ok without intervention which is pretty good going for a back to back.

My DD never ever got the hang of BF though. Never latched on properly. I have no idea why this was. Maybe it was the epidural making her sleepy or maybe she had an undiagnosed / missed Tongue-tie or lip tie or whatever or maybe that's just the was she was once she had got used to my milk being nicely packaged in bottles. I will never know but I won't refuse an epidural again if I need it.

Also had a catheter. I don't understand the hesitation here. It doesn't hurt at all to put it in and it's very discreet. I don't think I even saw it !

SootySweepandSue · 17/10/2011 08:45

I'm also best friends with an anaethestist (apologising in advance as I can not spell that word today) and she advised me what to do if it doesn't work, ie, complain like a madman and they will sort it out! Also trusted them immensely after knowing she was around the ward somewhere.

Incidentally she went for a c/section!

pommedechocolat · 17/10/2011 08:52

Mine was amazing. The doctor doing it was amazing and the relief was immediate and great. DD was back to back and labour was long. DD was born using ventouse and forceps but I think that would have happened anyway.

The only hesitation for me would be the catheter and the fact that due to medication I am on i had to keep the epidural in for 6 hours longer than I needed. That was a pain post birth.

I would hope for a simpler and non back to back birth next time round so I didn't have to have one but wouldn't be worried if I did have to have it again.

tabulahrasa · 17/10/2011 08:56

Not at all, I wasn't planning on having one with my first, but I had 72 hours of contractions before I went into active labour...by then I was willing to do anything to feel better, lol.

It didn't work properly to start with, one side did and the other didn't, so I had a top up and was completely numb from the chest down, I couldn't feel the contractions and had to be told when to push - which was a bit odd, but worked fine.

With my second I asked for one as soon as I got to hospital, rofl, that time it worked as it should - took away the pain, but I could still feel when to push.

If I had a catheter I didn't notice.

NinthWave · 17/10/2011 08:59

I had an epidural for my second birth and it was amazing. DS2 was 10lb6oz and I pushed him out in 45 mins, easily and happily, not so much as a scratch because the epidural meant I was calm, pain-free and could focus instead of being off my rocker with pain like I was the first time round.

It wasn't perfect; it took a while to place, and I had a 'patch' where it didn't take at first because DS2 was squashing a nerve - that was extremely painful, but as soon as I changed positions it went away.

No catheter, and I got up and walked to the toilet 30 mins after he was born - had him at 11pm, was sat fully-dressed cross-legged on my hospital bed BFing him by 7am the next morning Grin

Pippaandpolly · 17/10/2011 09:08

I don't know if I regret it. I hadn't wanted one but had to be induced as 48 hours after waters went and contractions the whole time I was only 3 cm dilated. First couple of attempts she hit my spine (there should be an agony smilie) but the third go worked-I think. I felt all my contractions (though for an hour or so they didn't hurt at all) and I felt everything during the pushing stage. I had to have a lot of local anaesthetic for my stitches (only 20 mins or so after delivery) too. Since the event I have really questioned whether it worked at all-at the time I just assumed it was normal but with hindsight I think it wore off after about an hour.

bruffin · 17/10/2011 09:13

Yes, couldn't feel any contractions and ended up in theatre after failed venteuse. In theatre they had an attempt at forceps otherwise it was going to be an emergency cd, thankfully forceps worked.
Had no pain relief at all with DD and everything was so much better, I could walk around which was my instinct told me to do and she was a very quick birth of 4 hours in total

PrettyCandles · 17/10/2011 09:21

Cons: it didn't work properly and I was in a lot of pain, and subsequent births without epidural showed me that even the small amount of PR it had given me had made me be out of touch with my body and less able to help myself. It also triggered the midwife to begin a cascade of interventions that dh and I had to fight hard to prevent happening.

Pros: I was exhausted after +24h of full-on labour, and had stopped dilating. The first brief period when the epidural worked relaxed me sufficiently that I dilated 2cm in 20 minutes, and was fully dilated within 2h. And the fact that the epidural had been incomplete worked to my advantage in the end, because I was able to push ds out without further intervention.

I didn't feel a failure for having had an epidural. I was shattered: I had not slept in nearly 48h, I had been in active labour for 36h, walking for 30h, and sucking on the G&A for several hours, and was still only just over 3cm. It was the right decision. Perhaps if I had been better supported beforehand I would have progressed faster, not been exhausted so soon, and not needed the epidural. Or perhaps not.

In preparing for my subsequent labours, I bore that in mind and ensured (a) that dh was aware that I might not ask and therefore he had to offer, and (b) that I asked for whatever I needed or wanted. I did not need an epidural in those labours, but was open to the idea of having one if necessary.

I don't regret having an epidural any more than I regret having a waterbirth. Both were good. Hey - I birthed my children, I, and not the midwife nor the anaesthetist, nor the auxiliary who filled the pool; they were all my helpers and supporters.

Bartimaeus · 17/10/2011 09:30

I don't regret having one - and I was dead against it beforehand!

Baby came out fine, no forceps, no tearing, just an episiotomy (sp?) which I didn't feel (although the stitches were agony!).

At my hospital I was allowed to manage the top ups myself - so by the pushing stage I reduced the top ups so could really feel when I needed to push.

marthastew · 17/10/2011 09:47

Absolutely no regrets. My labour was considered 'high risk'. Very very stressful and as soon as I had the epidural everything improved. I could talk to my husband and the midwives again, I felt much more in control as I could take in information and understand what was going on around me etc. It really really helped.

notcitrus · 17/10/2011 09:50

No regrets at all - I'm pretty sure I'd have had a cs otherwise.
I'd been in labour for 18 hours, had to get out of the pool, and my SPD managed to get worse, which was impressive as I'd been in a wheelchair when I went in. The labour itself was OK but I was in agony and exhausted from the pelvis pain.

The anaesthetist grilled me about my drug reaction history for 40 min but then said "Yes, I think you'll like this" and was right. Perfect pain relief! It was another 18 hours before ds was born via a last-ditch ventouse effort.

I was glad though they warned me about the 'shivers' as I did have great big involuntary shivers over the next 3 days, pretty frequently on the first day, but no other side effects at all. And shame my hospital didn't do ones with auto top up as the topping up every 2 hours got out of sync with the baby checkups every 2 hours in the night, so sleep didn't really happen. But they were great at hauling immobile me and the epi onto all fours on top of a pile of pillows so I could try pushing.

alwayspoor · 17/10/2011 09:55

Yes I regret having epidurials with DD1 and 2. I had a bad back for about a year after each and I ma sure it was down to this. I had just gas and air with DD3 and felt so much better after her birth than with the first two. I also think it may have slowed down the labours.

alwayspoor · 17/10/2011 09:56

Having said that I think you need to do what gets you through!

Chandon · 17/10/2011 09:59

loved mine. did it again with number 2

BecJackMissR · 17/10/2011 10:00

Yes I do. I get really bad pains in my lower back if I lay on the floor and try to sit up. It really HURTS !!

LEMONAIDE · 17/10/2011 10:03

Hell no - before labour my attitude was "no one is putting needles in my spine" during "give me the needle and i'll do it myself if necessary"

I had an epidural the first time and cracked jokes during my labour, admittedly had dehydration after but I dont remember it as a "bad" experience.

Labour 2 I didnt get my edpidural due to hospital f*cking about and leaving it too long - the birth itself was quite traumatising for me I couldnt hear what anyone was saying to me all I could hear was my blood pounding - it felt like some horrible tent hospital scene from a Vietnam movie. I am much clearer about holding DC2 for the first time after birth but struggled with depression for years afterwards.

Looking back I would vote for the epidural but tbh until you are there you dont know how you will feel about it - I even know a couple of people who say they "enjoyed" the labour pain (weirdos!) All I would say is dont rule it out.