A good friend of mine had 2 awful births and on her 2nd nearly died.
(both hospital) she had a severe PPH at the end of birth 2.
Her 1st she had loads of intervention and ended up with a EMCS.
Had nasty tears etc etc
She is adament that the reason her births went wrong in the 1st place was because the hospital made her do things which are not great for a natural birth, and she spent most of labour lieing still on her back on a bed, and then with her legs in stirrups etc etc.
She did NOT want a repeat of this with her 3rd, and the midwifes practically laughed at her when she mentioned she would like a home-birth as "they did not want to be dealing with a dead lady and 3 children without a mum".
She never saw an NHS midwife after that, and went independant. (she lived at least 30mins ambulence ride from hospital)
Her IM was very very supportive and agreed that the positions she had been put in and the intervention / monitoring she had accepted had almost certainly led to her pretty horrendous births, and was absolutely fine about her having a home birth.
They also discussed going to hospital and of course my friend agreed that if IM decided it actually was necessary to transfer then she would
She got her pool ready, and knew that IM was always around except for 1 day during the due date window when she was attending a wedding.....
Obviously baby chose that evening to be born. My friend hadnt realised she was in labour, until very late when they called the IM, who was heading home anyway. She went to the loo and her DH saw the head
.... she got in the pool and with just her DH delivered her 3rd baby. No pain relief, no tearing,
she sat with him for a while in the pool then got out. Her IM arrived as the placenta delivered naturally. and then the chord was cut etc etc.
My friend has been one of the most supportive people in my planned homebirth (Im 37+6 with my 1st, so waiting and ready
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Just cause the NHS think you are mad, you dont have to go along with it. She really wished that she had homebirthed all of hers, with an IM.
She found several local enough IM's who were more than happy to support her in the birth she wanted, and had her pick 