any one there who didn't find out the gender 20wks scan???

[jollyjollymom]

I am currently 37+3 wks, I didn't find out the gender at my 20wks scan as I wasn't ready at that time plus it's my fourth after 3 girls, so was very nervous, but now I am really feeling down and helpless like I have already lost all the excitment of being pregnant, SOME ONE PLEASE CHEER ME UP.... people around me are being very nosy, want to know the baby name, they want to know what colour baby cloths I have bought, passing comments etc.... I can't help myself...

I have one DS. Didn't find out the sex, never wanted to, loved having that surprise at the birth. Would never find out for any future pregnancies either, the sex just doesn't matter to me.

I didn't find out, I just find it more exciting not to know - keep people guessing I say. It's the last true surprise isn't it, and it's easy enough to get neutral clothes (it's my first) and think of boy and girl names.

Must admit that the nursery is going to be a bit girly so I hope a baby boy won't be scarred for life by Tatty Teddy.

Everyone's so convinced it'll be a boy but I genuinely don't care either way. Only 10 weeks to go and omg I can't wait!

I'm 22 weeks with a yellow bump and I feel like the only one in the world who hasn't found out, people are so surprised! It's the norm to find out these days so I feel more special knowing it's a surprise.

Having said that, our hospital won't tell you at the 20 weeks scan anyway - you have to pay for a private scan here, so that definitely helped taking away the temptation!!!

I found out with DC1 and DC2. With DC3 we wanted a surprise, especially as we knew the date of birth well in advance as I was having a planned section.

I loved not knowing, it made it even more exciting, although most people including hospital staff were surprised we chose not to find out.

When DD was born the midwife brought her round for DH and I to find out the sex for ourselves. So the first view I got of my beautiful DD was of her bum Loved it!

Currently 37+6 and also blissfully ignorant about the gender of DC2.

Didn't find out for DD1 and DH was so adamant she was a boy that I was worried he might be disappointed. Far from it, he now loves calling us "his girls". DD1 is a nice mix of girly-girl when she wants and tomboy at other times, so we genuinely don't mind about DC2 either way, although ILs have really badgered us about finding out and friends have complained that they don't know what to buy us (we've said: don't!).

Only minor annoyance I suppose is that the sales are on at the moment and if I knew DC2 was a boy I could save a bit of money on clothes. But all our newborn stuff was gender-neutral anyway.

Personally I've had a lot of positive reaction from the older generation ("good for you" comments). And IMO it's weird to know the baby's name before it's born, before you've "met" them. Even knowing the sex, I'd want to have at least a couple of name options up my sleeve and see which one sits best once you see the baby!

I didn't want to know, come on, all you need to know is that you've got a healthy being inside you, I guess I'm a little bit old skool!!!

I loved that "It's a girl!" moment after all that wait and anticipation. Then having to decide on a name.... more spontaneous and meaningful to be done in the high after the birth, I have a theory that this needing to know before it's born is a symptom of our instant gratification culture, imho.

I've had 3 and never known, the hospital where I had my last one sent out a letter just before 20 week scan saying that they wouldn't tell so don't ask! I would have liked to have known but in the end it wasn't that big a deal. I have 3dds

we never asked. there are so few real surprises in life and it was really wonderful both times to find out when DS and DD were born.. we were fairly convinced child no 1 was a boy (he was) and most people were convinced child no 2 was a boy but shes a girl!!

i think its odd when people say they need to know to be organised?? Are you really going to buy everything pink/ blue and paint everything pink/ blue?

couldnt find out with DD as she had some modesty drove me crazy for 40 weeks and 6 days the whole pregnancy i hated having to buy in once she was born i hated the green and yellow and beige would not go thru that again.

this pregnancy on the other hand... DS was sat with his legs spread playing with his toby!! couldnt blimming miss what he was even if i'd tried!

feel a bit sad he's not another DD even tho we wanted a son this time just after 6 yrs of buying girly stuff its strange to be looking at boys clothes and not longingly!

week 26 here btw and still excited and stressed

I never found out with DS1, with DS2 you could not help but she his enourmous balls during the scan, and found out with DS3 due to various reasons. Was disappointed for about 5 minutes when we found out DS3 was a boy, but was just pleased he was healthy.

Didn't know, didn't want to know (although we had a feeling it was a DS and we were right - otherwise been up shit creek - didn't have any girl names we could think of let alone agree on ). When people asked what I wanted I answered "a puppy" (was expected beginning of Jan but I reckoned Christmas Day and was spot on). If people are asking "what are you having?" - "a baby" is the simplest answer

I've never asked friends when they were expecting either - mind you I never bought gender specific clothing/toys either!

jollyjolly, I found out with ds4 and tbh felt very deflated and upset afterwards as I had been hoping he would be a girl. I was quite sad for the rest of the pregnancy but then when he was born I fell in love with him and really wished I hadn't found out as I think I would have gotten over any disappointment very quickly if I had waited till he was born.
FWIW I have cousins who are four girls and they really are a lovely, funny, wonderful family. I am pretty sure my aunt and uncle would have liked a boy somewhere along the way but they are now very happy with their four girls. So either way you will have a fab family!

Oh my goodness but it's the most wonderful thing in the world to examine your newborn, taking your time, and then when you're ready discovering for yourself whether they are a boy or a girl! I'm so glad we never found out at a scan.

I found out with dc 1 and dc2 I really wasn't enjoying being pregnant and I found it helped me to focus on being a Mum rather than simply pregnant. I felt that I really bonded with my baby. (we told the sex to anyone who asked but kept names to ourselves)

DC3 however was a much easier pregnancy and also I knew this one was to be a planned c section so I thought I'd wait to the birth to find out. It didn't feel like a surprise though - I already had dd1 and ds1 and this was such a boy pregnancy for me that I would have demanded a recount if at the birth they had said 'girl'

when one of my colleagues asked whatbI am having and I said dunno, another colleague said 'she is having an angel, just like her mum'

I wanted to know at 20 weeks so I could think of my baby as a "he" or "she", not an "it", and also so I could think about names, but they couldn't tell for sure what the gender was, as she refused to uncross her legs! They said it looked like girl from underneath (nothing dangling down!) and I agreed, but they couldnt be sure - I think I knew though, because I always thought of her as a "she" after that, and my short list of names were all feminine ones!

shecutoff...i completely agree...i know people who have been dispointed by their scan, but who could be sad to have a healthy newborn?!

Dc2 is due in sept, i'm glad not to know...it was really motivating through my labour with ds.