Hi TLM. I had a VBAC 9.5 years ago (just so you know this is not a recent experience!) without CFM, following an elective section for placenta praevia.
I refused CFM, with the backing of my consultant, who said that he didn't think it was necessary and (importantly, I think) wrote it in my notes (signed!). This made a big difference, as it was not just 'me against whatever midwife showed up on the day', iyswim. He also agreed that I could labour in the pool, though he wanted me to get out for delivery.
As it happened, I stayed in the bath at home for as long as I could (appreciate this won't work for you), then went into the hospital using Tens. I was monitored for about 10 minutes, but then allowed to move about. The pool, sadly, was already in use, so I opted to get back in the bath and I stayed there till I was in transition. When I was in transition a doctor came to do my cannula, and I took one look at her and threw up
, so she went away, intending to come back in a bit, but by then I was pushing and she didn't bother! All the time I was in the bath a midwife would come by every 20-30 minutes to monitor the baby's heartbeat with a handheld monitor that could be used under water (so I didn't have to get out).
I got out of the bath to push and was allowed to adopt whatever position I wanted (though ludicrously they insisted on putting me in a wheelchair to get from the bathroom to one of the delivery rooms, where I'd have much preferred to have walked...). I laboured kneeling up on the bed, holding on to the frame, which was a good position, I think. I could have done maybe with moving a bit more because the baby crowned quite quickly and then got a bit stuck, but I was never made to (or even encouraged to) lie on my back. The midwife just came round the front of me and monitored me with her hand-held monitor on a regular basis.
Obviously I was lucky and didn't get into any difficulties, but it was a pretty easy birth with no pain relief at all. I was very happy with how it all went.
I hope this is useful. My best piece of advice is to try to get your consultant to endorse your refusal of CFM in writing...
All the best...