Anaesthetic as far as I know can be preference of the anaesthetist: I think some prefer to put a spinal block in first then the epi, some don't bother with the spinal. AFAIK it's to do with anticipated levels of pain relief required (note to self, ask this question myself!) You can however choose to back out of that side altogether and go for a GA - mum did for her 4th section. Got up on The Day and just had a minor freak out (she'd previously had 1 GA and 2 epis), decided she couldn't handle it a 4th time and asked for the change when she got to hospital.
You should be able to hold baby as soon (or not!) as you want to, I think most hospitals will be happy for you to do skin to skin straight away, and if you want to ask them to drop the sheeting so you can watch DC arrive you can, and ask them not to tell you whether it's a boy or girl, unless you already know.
All of that kind of stuff is stuff to sort when you arrive in theatre though, that's not stuff the consultant's going to be fussed about. There will be a midwife (or two) in theatre with you, discuss it with her.
As for physical capability of feeding: I couldn't have done, but mine was an EMCS after 70 hours of labour, I could barely have told you my name, let alone BF! From a logistical point of view though you are flat on your back and from memory I don't think I would have been physically able to feed at that angle.
As far as your meeting with the consultant goes, I would keep the questions to the logistics: date of the op, anaesthetic, ask him to talk you through what happens, that kind of thing. If he's any cop he should answer everything without you needing to ask :)
FWIW I've seen a lot of ELCSs (ex theatre nurse) and if you want to know anything about the procedure itself, give me a shout :)