Ok, couple of questions about sex and waterbirths!

[Melly19MummyToBe]

By the way, I don't mean sex and waterbirths together :o

1:- Has anyone gone into labour shortly after having sex?
-Also, is it something in the sperm that helps to start labour?
-And do you need to orgasm?
People have been telling me all sorts and I'm confused!

2:- Has anyone had a waterbirth and what was it like?
-Did it help with the pain or make it worse?
-And did the water go red? I want one, but my DP thinks waterbirths are disgusting and he's "definitely not going to be there if I'm having one of them!), I think he thinks that it's just going to be a bloodbath (literally)

Some help would be nice please ladies :) I'm due on tuesday, so don't take too long! :o

Ewwww national truss I was enjoying being naive thinking they would deal with any poo accidents?

I'm going for water birth at a midwife unit.....should I bring a net to fish it out

They being midwives I mean....as I'm told they scoop away if it happens on the bed?

No experience of sex to bring it on, there was not much of that during pregnancy at all actually!

But as for water birth, my experience is that it did definitely help with the pain. In fact it was the only pain relief I had, since it all happened too quickly for me to think about getting the tens machine up and running, and the gas and air made me gag. I only got out the pool once to be examined, at which point it all felt massively more painful, and they also changed the water then as it was getting a bit mucky, and not warm enough. It was the best feeling to get back in that pool after the examination, the relief was amazing!

Re mess and blood... There were a few small "floaters" along the way during the first stages which were fished out I suppose by the midwife, but it wasn't too gross.

At delivery, bit of an unusual situation but i had to stand up in the pool and the umbilical cord broke off inside me as it was too short to let her out normally, and so yes, I was then literally sitting in a pool of blood, but the baby didnt even get to the water before being caught by the midwife, and the plug was immediately pulled out.

I definitely recommend the water birth, if you like water that is (I have friends who don't) in fact my main worry this time round is that the birthing pools are all taken when I get to hospital!

1.: no. tried it all 3 times. nothing. baby will come when it is ready to come

2: yes. laboured in pool with ds2 but delivered on land. just managed to get into pool before ds3 was born!
i loved labouring in it, it definitely helped with the pain, it's just soooo nice and warm and soothing.
with ds3... yes, the water did go a bit red. but having seen the mank all over the place after having ds2 i can say that red water is far preferable

My birth pool was surprisingly clean, despite delivering in the pool. No blood or mess apart from the odd floaty bit of white gunk! The majority of birth pools have nets next to them to fish out any nasties and midwives are usually fairly swift to remove anything without any fuss. It's very normal.

I made more mess once out of the water. My hospital has a policy that you can't deliver the placenta in the pool, so they made me climb out and sit on a birthing stool. Unfortunately for them, I lost quite a lot of blood and ended up with a retained placenta anyway. So, after a perfect natural birth, I needed to go to theatre to have it removed! I would definitely have another waterbirth if given the choice though. Brilliant pain relief and you really don't care about the state of the pool once you're in labour. The only thing I would say about the waterbirth is that it's a good idea to get a bath pillow to prop up your head, as it's hard to remain upright and my poor birthing partner had to suffer very dead arms to keep my head out of the water.

TBH there is going to be a bit of goo and glunk and possibly poo whether you are in the water or on land.

But by that stage neither you nor your DH will care. You will both be in a different place, emotionally, physically, and hormonally to where you are now, sitting at your computer in the cold light of day!

You will be exhausted, your DH will be knackered. He will have adrenaline and cortisone coursing through him, you'll be on the endorphins and oxytocin, he'll break down in tears when the baby is born as it is so emotional and he will be just so happy, proud and relieved, he won't even notice whether the pool is a bit red or not or there is a bit of gunk in it (anyway midwives whether on land or sea are good at quickly removing anything very gunky or pooey!)

DD was born on land but put straight from fanjo onto my chest. I expected her to be a mass of slime and gunk but she really wasn't - she was pink with a wet greasy blonde head and a few bloody streaks on her body. Anyway we were so proud of our beautiful lovely daughter that DH and I would have happily personally licked any gunge off, a la nature, if necessity had so dictated (thankfully midwives had nice fluffy towels!)