"Yes, I like to know it's there as an option, and when I had my first baby somebody had taken that away, I would have been rather angered."
Taken what away? The option of an epidural if you really need one? Gas and air? Both are available for a mum who books a homebirth, should she need them, though the first will require transfer. And of course booking a hospital birth is no guarantee of access to an epidural as a proportion of women who request an epidural won't get one because of inadequate anaesthetist cover on some labour wards.
"but why should I depend on such a random person?"
For the same reason you'd be depending on a random person in hospital! I know people who've had unassisted birth in hospital because the midwife has been off down the corridor caring for another mum. Actually it happens regularly in UK hospitals. Seriously - look at the facts. Women who have their babies in hospital are MUCH less likely to get one to one care from a midwife, and are much less likely to get continuous care from a single midwife. 80% of women who give birth in hospital don't know their midwife - have never seen her before. That's a massively higher percentage than among mums giving birth at home.
"My friend had a midwife in her homebirth that left her to go to the bathroom to refresh her makeup!"
Women who've had their babies at home usually find that it alters the whole dynamic of the relationship between them and their midwife, compared to the way things are in hospital. Most of what midwives do at home is simply watchful waiting. And many women don't want someone to sit there goggling at them.
I really can't understand why anyone would object to their midwife nipping off to freshen herself up at a homebirth, unless they were in the process of actually pushing their baby out or having complications which required her to keep close watch? My midwife slept across the end of my bed at times during my labour at home, which went on for two full days. She was tired. But I knew she was there for me if I needed her, and not with her hands up another woman in the room next door!
"I want to avoid taking chances as much as possible. "
With respect - it's slightly inflammatory to imply that opting for a homebirth is putting your baby at risk, and that's EXACTLY what you're doing here!
And of course things are different if you have medical complications in your pregnancy that put you at increased risk of needing a medical help.
I think the thing that I find difficult about these threads is that while it's fair to acknowledge that these things have to be decided on individual feeling and circumstance, there's also a lot of assumptions being made about what actually goes on in hospital or at home which aren't born out by the facts.