EMCS with DS3 and really struggling

[SleepySleeperson]

I had a traumatic horrible delivery 4 days ok which thankfully ended with the safe arrival of my third DS via EMCS. However, I was totally unprepared for how rubbish and incapacitated I am feeling. DH has had to go back to work today, my other two sons are on half term and I feel like I'm hanging on by a thread.

I know that this conincides with the normal time frame for baby blues, but I just don't know how I'm going to manage. Sob.

Does anyone have any tips for coping until bedtime?

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Can you stuck some movies on for them? I know it's not ideal but your aim here is to just survive and it won't kill them. Take each day as it comes. Emergency sections are crap - I had one with ds1 and was physically rocked by it- can't imagine how hard it is with other kids to manage but you will do it. Congratulations on 3 boys by the way - I have 3 boys (and another boy on the way) and it's fab!!!

Aw

I had DD3 by planned CS at the start of the summer holidays with two older ones with cabin fever. I remeber trying to BF DD3 in the park while watching my two year old on the climbing frame with no idea of the whereabouts of DD1. It was hard but I got through it and you will too

How are you physically? Can you sit in the garden? Can you drive? Soft play?

Also they can have the TV on, watch Dvds etc. YOu can turn into something like a treat, very exciting, watching in the dark under a duvet. A few days doing this won't kill them.

At the moment you feel like you cannot cope but you will. Important is that you rest and eat well. Look after baby.

With the third one everyone seems to expect you to be back to normal and coping immediately, including yourself. You and you body have been through a major event and it's important to remember that. Be good to yourself.

And you are allowed a hollow laugh when I told you to rest.

Do you have any spare cash at all that you could spend on a post-natal doula - you might be able to find one who could come for a few days even at short notice (get DH to look online when he's back from work). Or do you have any friends with teenagers you could pay a small amount to come over and entertain your two DCs/make snacks/tea etc for you? As you'd be there too they wouldn't need to have any experience, just like kids.

Thanks for your replies - I'm starting to pull myself together a bit, and have put on a DVD for DS 1 and 2 who, bless them, are being really helpful. I know it will get better, it's just such a shock to feel so completely useless and unable to do anything. I was not prepared for it at all and the whole thing is a little daunting, but it will get there.

Thank you for your support, it really helps x