we are very well thank you. Little P is adorable, 6 wks already. i want another one, 
Glad your sickness is subsiding, A doula is not for everyone but the right one can really make a huge difference, I think yours wasn't the right one for you.
Have spoken to my friend, this is what she replied so far
Reading this Lia, I see this birth as having something not right about it from the outset.
It might be worth lady getting hold of her old notes to see if anything else that might have prevented her baby's descent was documented.
Having a fever and not feeling right also suggest something was very wrong although I do wonder if those were very,very early signs of impending rupture and not just a possibility of infection.
I'd be interested to know the timings - how long the synto was up, what rate it was given and how long mum pushed for.
I'm also wondering why her baby's diagonal lie wasn't picked up sooner.
I also don't understand how anyone can estimate how much time is left before a rupture will occur. I've never seen any research to indicate that it's even possible to predict when a rupture will occur. Is more info available on that?
There's no eivdence to suggest that the same thing would ever happen again other than once you've had something like Bandl's Ring, the risk of it ocurring again are higher compared to someone who hasn't. Not helpful I know.
at the idea of a 9lb 8oz baby being macrosomatic.
Of course, I'm just going on what you've posted here and I'm no expert so these are just my ponderings.
Hope some of this can be of some help to you, even if it's just for research