just wanted to add 14 months ago i felt exactly like you i was expecting dc8 who was breech but couldn't have an ecv because despite having 6 easy vbac in between dc1 had been a cs 17 years earlier .
i hadn't even considered a c section as a possibility , not helped by the juniot dr who said ok baby breech c section booked for this date now goodbye . i'm also a control freak and had questions to ask and do not like being told you will do this because we say so etc.
cue 2 weeks of no sleep , major stress anxiety , many discussions with dr's and scouring mumsnet .
the hospital were very anti a vb and the last breech had been more than 5 years ago.
i was 42 nearly 43 and had a late mc 4 years before so knew the devastation of loosing a child .this in the end was what made me decide to accept an elcs .
it was a very very difficult decision as it was so grey no one could say your baby will definitely be damaged if you have a vb and no one could say she wouldn't be .in the end the decision for me was between running the risk of having an uncessary section or having a vb which could have resulted in the unnecessary death or disablement of my dd and in the long term which of thes 2 options would be easier to live with.
the elcs was not as bad as i feared , the staff were lovely etc.i was home after 2 days , could probably have left after 1 , walking climbing stairs easily by day 2 if not day 1 . driving at 2 weeks etc. only thing that was difficult was lifting heavy objects .
the emotional recovery has been more difficult still wonder "did i fail" "not give birth properly" etc deep down i know this is not the case. i also often find myself wondering if i'd had a vb would everything have been ok etc should i have given it a go but i put dd's safety above my own needs . everytime i hold dd or hear of a stillbirth, i do know i made the right decision for me and her.
good luck whatever you decide and enjoy you lo