You mustn't go into this with the attitude that you are failing if you don't get your ideal birth. I planned a home waterbirth with no drugs. I ended up with every intervention going and an emcs because dd hadn't read my birth plan and tried to come out ear first.
You can do things to try and sway it towards your ideal but so much of labour is chance. In this you have no control. And if you go into it already decided that you're going to feel guilty if it isn't 'perfect' instead of wakeboarding with a newborn strapped to your back, you'll be struggling with feelings of failure and lack of self-worth.
FWIW I had an emcs after a very long labour (plus attempted ventouse/episiotomy/manual rotation) and I was discharged after 12hrs. I didn't need painkillers and recovered very quickly indeed. Physically it was extremely easy. I was lucky in this too. There are two of you going through the delivery, you and the baby. You can't make all the decisions or tell the baby what to do. Sometimes they just please themselves.
I'm pregnant with number 2 and under consultant led care due to the previous delivery. And it's brilliant. Because my consultant is lovely. He is supportive of vbac in water, hypnobirthing etc. I do need to be monitored this time, for my own sanity as much as anything but in everything I still have choice.
Even with a cs, particularly an elcs, you can ask for skin to skin, lowered screens, quiet voices, your own music etc. You take control of the situation you're given I suppose.
Good luck. And congratulations.