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stuck in induction hell

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 21:48

My waters broke on wednesday just shy of 38wks and i came into hosp on friday morning for induction. Still here - just had the final (4th) dose of the 2nd round of gel inserted up my poor fanjo which feels v achey after all the prodding it has endured. I feel like a spineless twat for letting the doctor do it - when i realised what he was doing i started to say something and he said 'what, it might work...' he is the same one who said that second round inductions nearly always work. Not for me they dont. I havent had a twinge. Cervix nowhere near ready so cant have synto (and dont want it tbh)

In hindsight i wish i hadnt come here as i think the very fact of being here and being so stressed is stopping my body from going into labour, but at the same time i now seem paralysed with fear that whatever i ask for next (either go home or have CS) will mean i end up without a baby at the end of it all.

I dont really know why i'm posting, friends and family have stopped calling (bored of no news i expect) and DH at home with DC.

Has anyone got through similar?

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Flisspaps · 10/04/2011 21:50

Firstly are you saying he gave you the second dose of Prostin without your consent? You do know that no-one can do anything without your consent, and if that's the case then please complain.

If you want to go home, then go home. If you don't want synto there's nothing else they can do if the prostin doesn't open your cervix up, other than a CS. Have you discussed CS?

FunnysInTheGarden · 10/04/2011 21:51

sorry you're having a shit time. I had 2 inductions, but both times babies were born within 8 hours of pessary. The doctors will look after you and give you a C Section if nec. Good Luck and your baby will be fine.

CarGirl · 10/04/2011 21:54

I've had 4 inductions the first and third took days to get going!

Sorry to read that you're stuck in there - it is horrid isn't it Sad think of new baby to snuggle at the end of it all.

How many weeks were you when you delivered your others?

Hassled · 10/04/2011 21:56

I spent 2 days after the first lot of gel waiting for DC3 to arrive - I sympathise. I wish I'd had the guts to just go home.

Have they talked Oxytocin yet? That did the job.

mosschops30 · 10/04/2011 22:08

Im so sorry to hear what youre going through my 2nd induction (1st was fine). Was over 4 days and was poorly managed.
Had 2 days of prostin and propess and nothing happened they woukdnt 'let' me go home, but i wish i had now, with hindsifght i should neve have stayed in for 4 days it just added to the stress.
Eventually they broke my waters, just, and i ended yp with an emcs because they fucked around so much.

You need to speak to a consultant or senior midwife prac, get a plan e.g. If youre not in ctive labour by suxh and such a time we will do this, or we will do an elcs if you dont go by this date etc etc.
Please dont let them trundle along like they did with me, they put us both at risk. I know its hard because you feelvulnerable in this situation (at least i did,and i am a nurse working in the same hospital i delivered in), but make a plan, stand firm and if you want to go home and its safe to do so then go

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 22:08

Its my 6th dose of prostin - 4mg in first 24hrs, then a break, then another 4mg (with this last one being the last of those doses).My understanding (what mw told me) was he was going to examine me and then discuss further options. So all day i was hanging on to the fact that by 8pm i would know what was going to happen next. He stuck his fingers in, said 'unfavourable' and then whipped in the gel thing... So no, i dont think he had my consent. Its easy to say i shld just go home if i want but i could never forgive myself if something goes wrong.

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mosschops30 · 10/04/2011 22:10

How far from thehospital do you live?

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 22:12

Thanks mosschomps, thats useful advice. Sounds v similar to what i'm going thru.

Doing this on mobile so v slow at typing! But thanks for all the replies!

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maxpower · 10/04/2011 22:13

demand request to speak to the most senior obstetrician on duty - it won't be a consultant because of the time of day, but they can always call him/her to discuss you. Ask them what your options are now together with all the pros and cons, then you might feel up to making a decision. Can you call your DH in for some support in making the decision?

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 22:16

About half an hour

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mosschops30 · 10/04/2011 22:20

Are you havingany signs of labour at all? Have they said what the next tep will be?

breatheslowly · 10/04/2011 22:29

I second what maxpower says. Get a consultant to discuss all of your options with you. I had a shitty induction experience and should have insisted on speaking to a consultant rather than just going along with the hospital standard procedures like a good girl. I now have a fairly knackered fanjo and would have been much better off with a CS (sort of the reverse of mosschops but also 4 horrid days in hospital before DD was born). Consultants may be treated like gods with no time to spend with "normal" cases, but this has now become medicalised for you and if you had a serious illness you wouldn't think twice about demanding a proper consultation with a consultant and using as much of their time as necessary. If the person who did all of that to you is a consultant then you need to see a second one as your faith in that one has been damaged and I wouldn't have anyone with that little respect treat me. Don't mean to alarm you and good luck.

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 22:33

No signs at all, no cramping nothing... I have discussed nxt steps with various ppl but they all seem to say diff things - one mw said cs was v likely, then the next one on duty said no you need to first try another round of the gel, and it just keeps changing so i dont believe anyone any more.

I know i'm being negative, just feel so knackered after so little sleep! They want to move me to the ante-natal ward for the night, oh joys, as they need this room...

I will go now and say i need to speak to senior ppl first thing tomorrow - make a plan.

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 22:39

Thanks breathe and sorry u had a shit time too. Ha ha, this scenario is exactly why i wanted a home birth as i know i turn all feeble when faced with figures of authority! It really is time i grow a pair...

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mosschops30 · 10/04/2011 22:45

I would go home then and get a good nights rest, its no different to you being at home having not been induced or waiting for labour to start. Failing that get them to give you something to sleep, they gave me a night on pethidine just to shut me up and keep me there Hmm but i was rested in the mornng?

Margles · 10/04/2011 22:45

Hmm, could you call your husband now and get him to come back and then insist on seeing someone as soon as he gets there, and then, if you are not satisfied with what they offer you, go home and get a decent night's rest in your own bed?

Is it the forewaters or the hindwaters which have gone? Is the baby's head engaged?

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 22:54

Opiates sound good mosschomp!

Margles, i would get a cab home as it would be a nightmare to get someone to watch kids (we r in the sticks). I dont know if its fore or hindwatwrs, baby was 4/5 engaged last time they checked

Ok, going to find the mw now!

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mosschops30 · 10/04/2011 22:57

Aah i didnt notice your waters had broken, maybe there are some infection issues then, also that ou live out in the sticks.
Maybe you can ask senior mw/consultant about going home and if they say no then ask th reason, the only reason i was given was 'because we'll put you back to the end of the queue for ARM' Hmm

mosschops30 · 10/04/2011 22:58

Oh and stop calling me mosschomp lol
Doesnt paint me in a gd light Wink

Margles · 10/04/2011 23:13

Let us know how you get on, and try to get a good night's sleep - even if it means being knocked out with pethidine on the a-n ward!

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BayeauxT · 10/04/2011 23:33

Good night all, seeing the consultant in the morning

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BayeauxT · 11/04/2011 09:50

Sorry mossCHOPS lol!

Well, consultant was much more sympathetic than the other doctors... Will be having section later today, thanks to everyone who replied, i was feeling so low last night and it really helped to get some different perspectives on it.

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mosschops30 · 11/04/2011 11:07

Great news that theyre not going to sit on you any longer. Good luck with the section, hope it goes ok, keep us posted on your new arrival

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