Pushing - anyone else not feel the urge?

[bunnyfrance]

Hello,

I've been through labour once, 2 years ago, am expecting another baby in 4 months' time.

With DS, I had an epidural, which wore off before the "pushing" stage - the midwives didn't want to top it up because they wanted me to feel when to push. Problem was, all I could feel were very painful contractions. I felt absolutely no urge to push.

So then they were all yelling at me when to push and saying I wasn't pushing in the right way! Well, can anyone explain to me what is the "right" way to push? And did anyone else not feel any urge to push?

DS was eventually born with ventouse and it's marked in my notes "instrumental delivery due to insufficient maternal effort"!! Well, thanks for that!

So am looking for advice to avoid this scenario second time round.
Thanks everyone!

Nope here. 4 labours and no urge. First one I thought was due to epidural, pushing stage lasted 2 hours. Subsequent babies were out in 2 or 3 pushes but I just pushed when i was told. The agony of the contractiond was there and I remember the pressure being unbearable but I never had a moment where my body took over.

Seems its not uncommon... I thought i was weird :)

No urge to push with either of mine. With ds, arrived at hospital at 10cm as no urge to oush. Still took 5 hours and ventouse for him to get into the world as it was not possible to push through the pain when there was no urge to do so (oh and my waters hadn't broken and it took them 3 hours to notice!).

With dd had an epidural and no urge there either, but easy to push (actually had 3 epidurals and 2 spinals before 1 worked!) and no assistance required.

I was induced with syntocin with both of mine. Had epidural the first time so had to be coached by MW. Took 60 minutes and lots of tearing. Second time I refused the epidural hoping for a quicker second stage and less tearing. I was so scared and in so much pain I just couldn't push. There was no desire to get that baby out. It was only when the MW went looking for the on call Dr for assistance that I though I better get on with it. Managed to burst a blood vessel in my eye and it still took 70 minutes. I assumed it was the syntocin messing with my natural urges but looking at some of the posts here maybe not. The MW apologised and said she should have encouraged me to rest after reaching 10cm as I clearly wasn't ready to push.

As stated above my body totally took over and the pushing sensation was incredible. However it still took me 2.5 hours to get him out. This was because he was back-to-back and was turning around as he came down the birth canal. That wasn't pleasant ;)

Nope - no urge to push. I even remember saying to the MW "i don't really feel an overwhelming urge to push, but then i don't really know how it should feel" as it was my first. Weird.

No urge with b2b DS, I didn't understand how hard I would have to push. Once Ireally really tried, he was out in a couple of pushes (and my fanjo disintegrated :( ) with DD she fell out. I did get the urse with her though (it is not uncontrollable- I held her in as DH had gone to the car to get my notes!)

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