Help, due tomorrow and DD's fever worsening :(

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Has anyone got thru anything like this? Please come and talk to me.

I'm looking at due date tomorrow with DD having awfully high fever since 3 days, crying and off her food :( and GP insisting is just another "viral". She has 40c as I type this, just had nurofen.

On Thursday had been having nice regular cxn and getting hopeful... Then stress over DD made it all stop I guess. Seeing her suffering sent my BP up. Went reluctantly into hosp for BP series and doc did a VE said cervix was favourable, 1cm, could feel baby's head. Was v v insistent on wanting to do a sweep right then. But I couldnt, thinking of DD, not feeling ready.

Since then, her fevers not much better, I've been in bed, on the TENS occasionally with irregular contractions and so panicky and nauseous I've hardly eaten last few days, trying to keep out of DH's way since I can't do much for DD. Lost mucus plug today, streaked brown. But all excitement re birth has turned to ash. Can only hope DD better by the time I have to go to hosp. Can't believe I'm trying to hold on and wait Please please let her be better tomorrow, as it's induction Monday morning for me. If DH has to take her into A&E.... :( worst thing is I wont be there to cuddle her (whether or not I'm in labour all alone or not)

Our bodies are amazing things. They are in tune to surroundings and stress. It is the reason people often will (annoyingly) say we need to relax to go into labour.

If you are ill yourself, or very stressed, your body will deicde it is not safe/wise to have the baby now. It will hold onto babt for a day or two until dd is better, then you will relax, and your body will know it is safe for your baby to join you all.

I hope your dd gets better very soon, and that baby joins you straight after.

Thanks mungogerry

This is why stress inhibits labour - sometimes it just really isn't a good time to give birth for anyone including the new baby!

Hope your DD is okay. With a fever that high I would get a second opinion myself, but then I have very little trust in GPs.

I'd second that and get another opinion on the high temp, 40c is very high, how old is she? Be very aware of febrile convulsions, not nice, very scary for all concerned.

Good Luck, hope all goes well. xxx

You need to get her ears checked I think. Hihgh temp like that with dd3 was always ears.

Oh you poor thing. I am thinking good thoughts for you how stressful.

No useful advice, but I really feel for you, must be very hard.

Thank you, everyone, :) really needed the kind words... the GP did check her ears but I'll have her gran take her in again tomorrow, she's been a bit better today. Such a relief, I wouldn't have been able to go in for induction tomorrow otherwise.