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companions udring c sections

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kittenstorm · 01/03/2011 23:20

Like on the last episode(and a few other OBEM) why aren't your birth partners allowed in during the c section prep? Isn't it scary to be all by yourself while its all getting set up and, if like this past episode and its a ECS, you can't have anyone there for epidural etc? If your parnter can be there for the section, why not the prep stuff? or is that just this show? I think I would be scared of only having strangers around.

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CameronCook · 01/03/2011 23:23

When I was being prepped by birth partner (not DH) was getting cleaned up and into scrubs IIRC

DelicateFluffyBunny · 01/03/2011 23:27

I was told that they didn't like anyone there as it can be distressing for them to see all the poking and prodding that they have to do to prep you, iykwim. I think a birth partner would totally get under their feet while they are trying to set up.

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kittenstorm · 01/03/2011 23:33

but wouldn't it be more distressing for mum to be alone? both mums on this last ep looked really scared to me. I would possibly refuse to go on my own I'd be so scared.

BTW that was meant to be DURING not udring :-)

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edwardcullensotherwoman · 01/03/2011 23:34

My DH was with me, but it was an EmCS, does that make it different? In fact, DH was the one holding the pillow when they put the spinal needle in, but it made my leg spontaneously kick out so the nurse took over from him as she knew how to hold me steady. I'm hoping he can be there for my next which will be elective CS.
I would think that if you'd find it distressing Kitten, you can probably request that your birthing partner be with you.

BettyBleu · 02/03/2011 00:09

My DH was there from the start of the prep for my 2nd ELCS and the team seemed very used to having an 'extra' around. I found it much more reassuring than my 1st ELCS when I felt very scared having the cannula and spinal done on my own. Just ask if you want him there.

Phlebas · 02/03/2011 08:51

dh (& my mum - I had both with me for my electives) stayed with me for the whole thing, (cannula/spinal/catheter etc). It's standard where I am - I think some hospitals are archaic.

nunnie · 02/03/2011 09:42

I had an EMCS and my dh wasn't allowed in at all, the baby was taken to him after he was born, he was the first out of the two of us to see and hold my DS (my spinal never worked and I ended up with a GA).
I think in my situation of DH had of been there when they started to cut me and I felt it, he would have been very distressed.

However if it had been an ELCS it may well have been different.

Phlebas · 02/03/2011 10:00

if you need a GA they won't let your partner be in theatre.

japhrimel · 02/03/2011 12:15

My DH was with me - thankfully as he was "interpreting" my responses to some questions as I was self-hypnotised for them to get the spinal in (took an hour thanks to my hyperlordosis).

FutureNannyOgg · 02/03/2011 13:12

My DH came into theatre with me, and left with me, he as never asked to go elsewhere. He got his scrubs on while I was still in the delivery room with the midwife, and we "picked him up" from outside the changing place as I was wheeled into theatre.

Chynah · 02/03/2011 13:15

My DH was present for both my ELCS preps. He put his scrubs on and we went to theatre together and he held my hands while they put the spinal in and sat by my head throughout the op. Took some lovely photos in theatre too.

babylann · 02/03/2011 13:19

DP was told to wait outside when I was being prepped for EMCS. Apparently they left him there for 30 mins before they brought him in. I'd been in labour for three days and had gone into an almost daydream like state from lack of sleep and all the pain relief, so it felt like a couple of minutes to me. I wasn't scared, even though my blood pressure was through the roof and there was a sense of urgency.

But apparently DP was very scared, being excluded from the birth for so long. He wondered if something had gone wrong.

mosschops30 · 02/03/2011 13:28

Dh was allowed in for my emcs (with epidural) and subsequent repair under spinal.
He was also allowed in the anaesthetic room for my GA.

I did my dissertation on visitors to critical areas. It is beneficial for a nervous adult to have someone with them, as is common with childten

LiegeAndLief · 02/03/2011 14:16

Dh was definitely not allowed in with me for the prep for my planned cs. I wasn't that bothered by it really, even though I was very scared (I was 34 weeks and it had been "planned" about 12hrs earlier). He came in just before they started cutting.

The anaethetist and nurse were wonderful and very reassuring, the nurse held my hand while they did the local anaesthetic - they were probably better than dh who is terrified of needles!

mungogerry · 02/03/2011 14:26

Mine was with me every second from 8am until 9pm, apart from him going to get lunch, or for a wee. Section was planned and was at half 4. He was never asked to leave once.

ledkr · 02/03/2011 14:41

i had mine 4wks ago and dh was with me every second,i found the spinal very painfull and got upset i found having him there a real comfort,he did admit later he found it hard to see me so upset.

DelicateFluffyBunny · 02/03/2011 16:38

Phlebas, I have had a GA for all of my c-sections and my DH was allowed to be there for 2 of them. It depends on who is doing the op if they will let a birth partner be there.

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kiwijesta · 04/03/2011 02:39

My DH was there the whole time too, they did brief him on what to do and where to go if he felt woozy, which luckily he didn't. I would check this when you do your checks a couple of days before, it was very reassuring having him there, the only nervous wobble I had was just before the spinal, although I told him off for trying to give me a comforting pat (made me cry a little oddly) I was so pleased he was there.
Good luck!

Sparklies · 04/03/2011 09:47

My DH was with me the whole time (Kings College) for my not-very-emergency but unplanned CS. Which was weird!! Because I'd already had several operations that pregnancy under spinal (incompetent cervix - stitch in, stitch out) so I was well used to going it alone. In fact I preferred it that way, I could be myself rather than having a spectator to my little world of medical dramas! Especially as DH hadn't been that involved with the pregnancy other than asking for the odd factual update.

Of course I wanted him to meet his new daughter as she was born (who he was pleased with.. I think!! DH does not show emotion especially round others!) but it just felt odd having him in the operating theatre - these had always been "adventures" I'd had alone! And now people were telling him what they were doing to me as well as talking to me - it was strange to not be the only non-medical person in the room.

lgmum2b · 04/03/2011 11:54

My hubby was with me the entire time. There is no way I would have help myself together if he wasn't there holding my hands whilst I got my epdidural put in etc.
Couldn't have done it without him and the care of my midwife who was also there.

Lou

Lucylikeslilies · 04/03/2011 11:58

DH was with me the whole time. He even had to help the MW wheel my bed down to theatre!

WidowWadman · 04/03/2011 18:54

My husband was with me for most of the prep. He got changed while they wheeled me to theatre/induction and followed behind closely

CrapBag · 04/03/2011 19:40

DH wasn't with me for the 1st bit but thats because he was getting changed. He came in about half way through though.

Phlebas · 04/03/2011 19:41

DelicateFluffyBunny that's really good :) I've never heard of a team letting a partner in for a GA c-section before, I think it's great that you found someone so flexible. My Ob was fine about 2 birth partners (had to check with the anaesthetist too) & let dh film the actual delivery which I know most won't allow ... I'm always happy to hear about HCPs that are flexible & actually listen to patients rather than blindly following protocols.

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