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When did you feel up to visitors after ELCS?

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CrapBag · 02/02/2011 14:42

I am asking so many questions with this at the moment but I am trying to plan plan plan.

I am having an ELCS on Monday (all going well). I am 2nd on the list so will be going to theatre around 10.30-11 (barring emergencies).

When after did you feel up to seeing people? My hospital are currently kicking people after about 2 days, sometimes 1 if all is well after section.

My DS (3) is going to be with my GPs but I know I am going to be desperate to see him and he is going to be asking for me as we will be dropping him at GPs at about 7.00am.

Will I feel up to visitors later that afternoon or not until the next day? I know there will also be my dad who will be desperate to come up and my closest friend. I am willing to tell people they have to wait but I know there are some people who I want to be 'the first visitors'.

Some people are going to have to wait though as the first weekend is going to be dedicated to my siblings who are all away in the week and only home at weekends so I have given them priority for the first weekend, especially as one is coming from university which is miles away and I don't want to be innundated with people so am going to stagger people and they will have to have certain times.

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hellymelly · 02/02/2011 14:45

Well I'd say the next day.You will have a catheter in and a line still in your hand on day one.The next day will be a lot better.

MrsWentworth · 02/02/2011 14:45

I had my ELCS at 11am (DH was there while my mum looked after DS), and my mum came to visit that afternoon while DH looked after DS. DH, Mum and DS all came again later that day. It was fine. I think it's a question of who the visitors are more than anything else! If you know that they won't outstay their welcome and will help you out, that's one thing - but if they're going to want you to entertain and feed them, that's another.

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CrapBag · 02/02/2011 14:46

Does it matter if you have those in? I had them in last time as I had an epidural and the MW left my catheter in for ages anyway. They also left the line in for quite a while, to the point where my hand was really really sore.

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HavingAnOffDAy · 02/02/2011 14:47

I had ELCS with DC1 4 years ago.

I was last on the list so didn't have her until almost 4pm. Once I was down from recovery etc it was about 6pm & I was very high on morphine until much later

I put off visitors until the day after my section but if probably would have asked DH to bring siblings in on the day.

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CrapBag · 02/02/2011 14:47

People who want entertaining and feeding can sod right off, although luckily I can't think of anyone who would actually want or expect that.

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LadySanders · 02/02/2011 14:47

my first 2 emergency sections i was up and cheerfully jumping around within hours, would have happily entertained 30 people. section 3, elective, they trapped a nerve in the stitches which was horribly painful and i didn't want to see anyone or do anything for at least 2 weeks. so you might just have to see how you feel

Imnotaslimjim · 02/02/2011 14:49

I had ELCS at 10 am, and had my parents and best friend visiting at 6 that evening! The catheter was in for a few days in the end so that didn't bother me!

MrsWentworth · 02/02/2011 14:50

Neither could I, crapbag, until one of my mum's sisters came to stay with me for five days "to look after me" post ELCS!

sungirltan · 02/02/2011 14:51

Take is easy. I had an emcs and I was in bad way for a couple of weeks but the excitement of the baby gives you energy at the time. Tell people they can come for short visits - 30 mins to an hour and get your dp/someone to politely kick people out soonish. they will come back dont worry.

hellymelly · 02/02/2011 14:52

No it doesn't matter if you don't mind,but I wouldn't have wanted many friends to come while I was still attatched to a big bucket of wee.My dd would have been really bothered by the line ,so she didn't come in 'til the second day (she was two).I also felt rather fragile and tired on the first day,bit more normal the next one.(I had been up all night in labour though).

japhrimel · 02/02/2011 15:37

I'd wait and see tbh. You could get bumped by emcs's, you could have a bad bleed - but you might feel fine.

I was exhausted after my CS but I'd been in early labour for 5 days and then DD got whisked off to SCBU.

Chynah · 02/02/2011 17:34

My last ELCS was at 9.30 and I had the in laws & DS (1) visit about 3pm which was fine although I was still a bit dead in the legs! Wouldn't have wanted loads of friends coming in though.

WimpleOfTheBallet · 02/02/2011 17:37

I have had 2 sections and was happy to have visitors often...they bring you nice things...ignore you and look at the baby! In hospital nobody but my DH, my Mum and my sis...I escaped the hospital on day three and then had anyone who wanted to come.

WimpleOfTheBallet · 02/02/2011 17:39

Oooh and I was very happy after my selective C section...it was all very calm and lovely...nurses and doc were great....I asked if DH could go along with the new DD when she was "removed" from me and they showed her to me and then whizzed her off for a wash etc....DH went too...and spoke to her. She stopped crying whe she heard him! Twas lovely and helped DH feel helpful! Have a lovely birth!

WimpleOfTheBallet · 02/02/2011 17:40

Lol..ELECTIVE not "Selective"

Wheelybug · 02/02/2011 17:45

After my semi elective, which happened at about 330 pm visitors came the next day (I didn't get to a room until 4am though) - DD1, grandparents and DH's Aunt.

I had visitors earlier though after DD1, which was an emergency C-sec at 1.30 am after 3 days of failed early induction. I had visitors (my parents, dh's mum) that day.

LoopyLoopsPoopaScoop · 02/02/2011 17:49

The whole world and his wife came straight away and I didn't want them to, so they just turned up. :(
It was horrible, as DTD1 was stillborn, DTD2 in NICU and I was ina state. They all thought they were helping by turning up unannounced, but I hated it. Especially hated that visitors saw DD in NICU hours before I was allowed to be wheeled out of delivery. :(

This time, I will want DH with me and DD there as soon as the hospital will allow it, but only her and whomever is bringing her in, not a million people.

faverolles · 02/02/2011 18:15

I had my last cs at 2:15 and my other dc were brought to visit at 6pm. My parents then came at 7:30.
I felt fine.
I went home 2 days later, and we limited visitors then, so we had the weekend together, which worked out really well

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CrapBag · 02/02/2011 18:48

Oh good.

All going well my GPs can bring DS up later that afternoon and my dad can come up the next day, possibly ILs, I'll see how I feel. I don't really want anyone else there at the hospital as it will be too much. I know my cousin and his DP want to come to the hospital but I'm going to say no to that.

Loopy that is horrible. How inconsiderate of them.

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Stangirl · 03/02/2011 15:31

I had my elcs at 9am and saw my oldest friend at 4pm the same day. Had all grandparents in next morning.

NellyTheElephant · 03/02/2011 15:49

I had 3 sections - all at midday ish. Mum, brother, SIL all came to see me (for short visits and quick cuddle with the baby) in the recovery ward (i.e. within an hour or two of section). Once I was on the standard wards I was v happy to see various people for short visits same day and day after (i.e. a couple of my best girlfriends, DH's brother and his wife). I didn't have my younger children in until the day after the section though as I knew it would be a bit bouncy and wanted catheter out.

Once at home I was very pleased to have people coming over provided they were the sorts of friends who brought a packet of biscuits and made tea, not the sort who wanted entertaining.

I would add that I was v lucky with bf, and so had no concerns or difficulties there. If I had had problems on that front I'd probably have wanted to be left alone a bit more to get that established.

theborrower · 03/02/2011 16:46

I had a EMCS at about 5am and my parents came to see me for the afternoon visit which was 2.30pm. I was fine with them being there but I don't think I would have been ready to see anyone else, I was (obviously) still immobile and had a catheter in and was tired, but I didn't mind them seeing all that. They came back with my brother in the evening and I was still fine. They didn't outstay their welcome.

We had (non-family) visitors to the house when baby was a week old and we popped to the local for a drink (!!!). I wish we hadn't now, to be perfectly honest, but I felt a bit pressured to say Yes to them coming over and also because DH was getting cabin fever (so did I, I suppose). Next time I'm going to say No Way to visitors for about 2 weeks and will stay in my jammies for all that time (if that's even possible with a toddler).

Just see how you feel. Decent friends will understand if you're not feeling up to any visitors, and family should do too or at least you may be more comfortable telling them to leave or at least put the kettle on and do your washing for you Remember that you need to rest, recover and concentrate on feeding and enjoy your new family of 4.

TLCDoula · 03/02/2011 18:31

I had both of mine before 10am each time as was upto visitors by 2pm that day (grandparents only). Then had DH's sister and a friend the day after but I felt worse that day and wasn't really upto visitors. So I'd say any children and grandparents if you're upto it and everyone else can wait until the day after you're home. Good luck :) x

FutureNannyOgg · 03/02/2011 22:14

I wouldn't have wanted to see anyone but dh until 12 hours after when I'd had a shower. Before that I was sweaty, sitting in a puddle of blood with catheter and I just wanted to rest and snuggle my baby. Thinking about it I would rather not have seen anyone until we'd been home a couple of days, but older children, post shower I think.

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