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over due poem??

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ilovefirelighters · 31/01/2011 07:13

hello a few months ago now someone posted a lovely poem for anxious overdue mums. does anyone recall it or have 1 to share? many thanks

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mommmmyof2 · 31/01/2011 10:14

I love poems but never seen it.

homebirthmummy · 31/01/2011 11:33

Not really about being overdue, but a poem none the less!

I'm standing today at the gateway
Between what was and what is to come
Prepared to embrace my future
Yet remembering where I come from

Integration is happening inside me
All my pieces are coming together
Parts of me that were hiding in darkness
Have come into the light now ? forever

The road has been long and treacherous
So many memories I kept from myself
Wounded imprints from trauma in childhood
Hidden poisons left rotting on the shelf

The courage it has taken is enormous
To lift the lid on the secret and unseen
To understand what has locked me in misery
To release it and finally feel clean

Generations of wounded have come before me
Passing their darkness onto their young
Unwilling to examine their shadows
Burying their heads and biting their tongues

Their silence and denial offends me
How dare they perpetuate their pain?
Why haven't they owned up to their darkness?
Instead of creating more and more of the same

As a teenager I decided I had had it
That I would NOT pass on the disease
That I'd rather stay childless and single
Until at last I had found the right keys

To unlocking the doorway to divinity
Putting an end to the lineage of abuse
Saying NO to the lies of my elders
And then finally untangling the noose

The core of our pain starts in childbirth
And gestation filled with loathing and fear
Our own mothers handing over their power
Taking drugs, smoking cigarettes, drinking beer

And then birthing their babies in violence
C-sections, episiotomies, and more
Epidurals, anesthetic, and demerol
Separation that goes right to the core

Ridiculous attempts to create numbness
To deny our culture of hate
Birthing babies asleep and unconscious
Leaving infants alone at the gate

How disgusting to hand over our power
Undermining the essence of birth
What on Earth could we possibly be thinking
As we belittle our value and worth

Denying our own inner calling
To protect our infants at birth
Handing over our sons to be circumcised
Then pretending that they don't feel traumatized

Allowing our babies to be taken
To be poked and prodded and hurt
Then placed in nurseries of horror
Their nervous systems on hyper-alert

And I question how many infants must suffer
At the hands of this sadism and pain
C-sections, episiotomy, circumcision,
All done for profit and gain

It's pathetic and I knew it from the get go
That the buck stops with me ? and that's that
I will NOT birth my babies in violence
Or allow others to tell me where it's at

I have grown into a strong, empowered woman
With a voice that's committed to truth
Speaking out about outrageous betrayals
When others may think me uncouth

Well too bad! I accept myself fully
And I am done with holding myself back
Stripping away old layers of uncertainty
Putting an end to my suffering and lack

And my efforts have evolved me into an elder
That embodies great wisdom and love
Standing ready to guide the next generation
On the path to rising above

Stepping into my God-given power
At the portal to really BIG love
Now attracting the arrival of my bridegroom
On the threshold to all I dream of

Passing through the gateway to divinity
Into the life I was really born to live
Filled with passion, aliveness and abundance
And receiving all that I give

I am standing today at the gateway
To fulfilling my purpose on Earth
Sacred union of male and female
Conscious conception, enlightened gestation, ecstatic birth

Jeanice Barcelo, M.A.

homebirthmummy · 31/01/2011 11:37

or this one?.....

When i am ready, I will smile.
You'll have to wait a little while.
It's one of the first things I learn to do,
I want it to be just right for you.

When I am ready I will sleep through.
There may be small things that you can do,
To help me do it, but you'll soon see,
That in the end it's up to me.

When I am ready I will crawl.
And then you will have no peace at all.
Into everything I will be,
No time for your nice cup of tea.

When I am ready I will walk.
And when I am ready I will talk.
Then that's it, big milestones done.
(Though you will still cherish ones to come)

Was I really as small as that,
Helpless and tiny in booties and hat?
And much as you tried to enjoy each part,
There was that wish inside your heart.

Will you ever get there you used to say?
As you wished my babyhood away.
The others are doing it why aren't you?
Because it's not my time - if only you knew.

That all that worry was a waste of time.
The decision of when was always mine.
I did it in the end, nice and steady.
I told you I would do it when I was ready!!

juuule · 31/01/2011 11:37

Not a poem but I always loved this one that I read when I was overdue.

"The day is almost here. The day I will say goodbye to having you all to myself and the rest of the world will say hello. I want to meet you, to see your tiny face and toes and nose. But sometimes I wish I could keep you to myself forever. There is nothing like the miracle of bringing you into this world. Every day of this pregnancy has been filled with triumphs and fear, an emotional and physical roller coaster that at this moment I am sad to see coming to an end. I can remember the anticipation of the arrival of your older brother. Oh how I could not wait for that pregnancy to end. The day after the delivery, I looked into the mirror and I was hit by an unexpected, overwhelming sadness.
?My? baby was now ?Everyones? baby.
You become used to the two of you as one, it is hard to adjust to being on your own again. I felt lonely. That experience has made me cherish every moment of this pregnancy with you. I wish time could stand still for just a little while so I can engrave this feeling and the beauty of you in my body forever on my mind. I know in a couple of days, I will wake up thinking ?did I feel the baby kick?? and then I will remember that you are no longer there inside me.
Don?t mistake me, I can?t wait to see you, hold you, learn your unique personality, but I am torn with these emotions. We will always share a special bond that only we experienced. The details will fade over time but I will never forget the joy of carrying you."

mommmmyof2 · 31/01/2011 11:55

homebirthmummy that poem was deep but good.Grin

SelinaDoula · 31/01/2011 13:19

Is this the one you mean-

My baby's not a library book

My baby's not a library book,
so she's not overdue.
My baby don't take long to cook,
coz she's not veggie stew.

My baby's not an elephant,
and I'm not fit to burst.
The time and date aren't relevant,
we're blessed with days, not cursed.

My baby can't read dates as yet,
because she's very new.
So there's no cause to fuss and fret,
if she don't come on cue.

So stop your worry,
stop your asking,
there's no hurry
we're relaxing
in this golden pregnant time,
this pause, which is just hers and mine.

You leave us be, we are just fine.

©Rachel P (Wales)

From
www.caesarean.org.uk/PoetryProse/RachelOverduePoem.html
S x

ilovefirelighters · 31/01/2011 17:46

thank you so much for those, selinadoula thats the 1! thank you very much x

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everybodysang · 31/01/2011 18:35

Wow. Trying to get over a traumatic birth (6 weeks ago) which ended up in a c-section, without which we both would have died; then a dreadful time in SCBU watching my tiny daughter covered in tubes and pricked with needles. I thought I was starting to get over it. That Jeanice Barcelo poem has just made me feel about a million times worse. Way to make a new mother feel like shit, Jeanice!

everybodysang · 31/01/2011 19:38

Also, it's a terrible poem.

GMajor7 · 31/01/2011 19:55

And I question how many infants must suffer
At the hands of this sadism and pain
C-sections, episiotomy, circumcision,
All done for profit and gain

It's pathetic and I knew it from the get go
That the buck stops with me ? and that's tthat
I will NOT birth my babies in violence
Or allow others to tell me where it's at

Not really suitable for 'anxious, overdue mums' hbm

As it happens my emcs was most certainly not performed for profit or gain, rather to save us both from death.

Agreee wholeheartedly with everybodysang

IThinkNot · 31/01/2011 19:57

ohh these are vomit inducing!

I'm currently 40 + 3 and fed up.

Here's my poem

Get out!
Get out!
Get out!
I want my body back!

Get out!

Not all poems have to rhyme Grin

GMajor7 · 31/01/2011 19:59

Much better IThinkNot Grin

cocoachannel · 31/01/2011 20:12

IThinkNot for Poet Laureate! Much better...

That Jeanice Barcelo poem is crap on several levels. (Three years studying English Literature at university and 'crap' is the best I can muster by way of critique). Well, crap and offensive. A horrible addition to a supposedly supportive childbirth forum.

LeviStubbsTears · 01/02/2011 06:14

As an antidote (possibly), an amazing Sylvia Plath poem ('You're') about a baby in utero - to make people (if they like it, at least), enjoy the baby being in there for just a bit longer. Worked for me, anyway. Applies better to earlier stages of pregnancy, but the ending is lovely wherever you are in the process.

          You're

Clownlike, happiest on your hands,
Feet to the stars, and moon-skulled,
Gilled like a fish. A common-sense
Thumbs-down on the dodo's mode.
Wrapped up in yourself like a spool,
Trawling your dark as owls do.
Mute as a turnip from the Fourth
Of July to All Fools' Day,
O high-riser, my little loaf.

Vague as fog and looked for like mail.
Farther off than Australia.
Bent-backed Atlas, our traveled prawn.
Snug as a bud and at home
Like a sprat in a pickle jug.
A creel of eels, all ripples.
Jumpy as a Mexican bean.
Right, like a well-done sum.
A clean slate, with your own face on.

cocoachannel · 01/02/2011 10:03

Levi- thanks for posting that. I studied it for 'A' level (a few years ago now...) and had forgotten all about it.

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