Is three weeks after birth too soon to have sex?

[Wildpoppy]

It's just I've been feeling very horny last few days and really want to, perhaps just because I need to feel physically close to dh and cuddles whilst good just make me want more.

I had vaginal birth three weeks ago with episiotomy. Stitches no longer hurt though and bleeding seems to have stopped.

Am I allowed sex?

Obv I need to work out contraception first. We've never used any and took two and a half years to get pregnant but no doubt use none now and we'll jar a ten month age gap between babies which would be disastrous!

i was told to wait till i was comfortable. In islam, you are told to wait forty days, which is the six week period that doctors say.
three weeks post first baby, i didnt want to. post third baby i think i waited more like three onths, as just didnt feel like it

This was 12 years ago but I was told wait for 6 weeks. I believe your womb entrance could still be open to infection before then.

Nowt wrong with you getting intimate in the meantime!

Thank you. Will wait until 6 weeks then as obv want to avoid infection risk.

I lasted two weeks, (similar to you re episiotomy), but it has to be your decision.

The only 'official' advice nowadays is to wait til the lochia / bleeding has finished. So if it has, and you're ready, go for it! (gently!)

If you want to, I think you should.

TBH dh and I just used hands for the first time.

But keeping your relationship alive is good for your dc.

Definitely sort out the contraception though, as you are more fertile than ever after giving birth. That's how I fell pregnant really soon after giving birth to DD2!

Wow, I am embarrassed we waited 8 weeks as I was so scared!!! And knackered... Go for it!

I have heard stories of couples getting it on in hospital within hours of the birth! If you feel fine, go for it, slowly and gently. I think it's fantastic that you feel up for it and should grab this chance just in case sleep deprivation hits next week.

I left it too long, about 8-10 weeks I think. Physically it was awkward, but fine, but it was more of a mental thing. I'd built it up to be such a big deal.

Whenever one of my colleagues is asked this, he says "A gentleman will wait until the placenta has been delivered."

I think the 6 week advice is good although I don't know if there is any evidence for or against it.

My midwofe told me a story of delivering a baby then going back in the room half an hour later to check on the family and baby was asleep in the crib and mum and dad were going at it on the bed...

3 weeks is fine if you want to and feel you are ready - I did after about 3 weeks. Also had seen my obstetrician 3 weeks after the birth for another reason, and he told me it's fine. As long as you feel ready and soreness is gone, and you are using contraception if you don't want to fall pregnant again this quickly!