Was calm Hypnobirther, now panicking

[SingaporeMummy]

Hi, have been calmly relaxing my way towards a natural, hypnobirthing childbirth (first timer, 38weeks today) and now panicking madly and have no idea how I ever thought it would be possible!
Am the last in antenatal group to 'go' and they've all had horror stories of birth pain and intervention.
Was still calm and then my best bump buddy had a stillborn boy on Xmas day which has obviously been an enormous emotional trauma, clearly more for her but selfishly for me too as we've been sorting the funeral,etc together and I'm not coping well with it. When I'm with her I'm all calm and collected and then an emotional wreck at home.
I just want bubs to be safe, I don't think I'm emotionally strong enough for natural birth now. Should I change the whole birth plan?

Gosh I couldn't let this go unanswered - I'm not surprised you're panicking given what's happened.

Remember that your body and your baby are completely different from anyone else's, and that being calm is the best thing you can do for you and the baby.

You can change your mind at any point. So why not plan a natural birth but be open to other options? Flexibility is always a good thing. So if you feel you need pain relief, have pain relief but you don't have to make that decision until you're there, experiencing it. And you may well be able to have the natural birth you planned.

Also, and I can see this is difficult, but is there any way you can stop helping the friend plan the funeral etc until you've given birth? I'm not surprised you are not coping well with it. Sorry to sound harsh but you need to concentrate on yourself right now.

My deepest sympathies to your friend though.

call your HB teacher they can do an extra fear release and get you in the right frame of mind