Having 2nd baby and have no one to look after DS whos 5

[Scruffyhound]

Has anyone taken their other children to the hospital when in labour do the hospital offer help for this or am I just being stupid? I have moved away from where I used to live and we have no family to help here well accpet DP mum and step dad but after going around chirstmas day and thier stupid dog biting my DS hes not going there ever again. So there is no one to ask really. My mum has taken some time off but we cant tell baby to come whilst she is here!! I just wondered what other people have done and Its starting to make me a bit nervous.

I will aks my midwife although Im yet to meet her! I keep getting different ones. I loved my midwife back were I used to live she totally was in the right job! She was so lovley. So far I have seen 3 different ones and they have always seemed rushed. So does not make me feel too settled! I have been told I will meet my nidwife but have yet to do so. I would love to leave DS with DP but this is DP's first child as my DS is from my ex husband. He can come and pick my DS up but lives 1 1/2 hours away. And not knowing what time baby will come is tricky. I would not want DP to miss out on birth of his first baby. But if it comes to it then thats what we will have to do. But will ask DP's cousin first. Then think of a cunning back up plan?! Not sure what that will be...... As for a home birth I think my last birth was a bit weird I was in hospital for 5 days before labour as I was overdue and the labour was slow and very painful they wanted to induce me but he started to come just after it was said. I would prefer to be in hospital as I want to be where the support is if I should need it. Im afriad Im no natural mum I like the drugs!!! And I worry if something should go wrong. I wish I could be more like a mum that could give birth with no drugs in the house with everyone there for support.

Hi Scruffyhound

When I had DS, we had to take DD to hospital with us at 4:30am, but she was refused into the delivery suite as children are not allowed. DH had to sit outside in the corridor with her (he wasn't even given a chair!). DH was planning on waiting until 7am at which point he would leave and take DD to nursery.

Luckily, DS was born 15 mins after arriving at hospital so they didn't have long to wait!

Midwife let DH and DD come into the delivery room after we were all cleaned up and we spent an hour together (with tea and toast!) before DH took her home and I went for a bath and then a snooze. They came back at lunchtime to collect us.

SparklyJules sounds like it kinda worked out in the end?! I would be glad if DS and DP were around. I would love DP to be there as this is his first he said he would love to be there but if my DS has no where then he will stay with DS. It might be we all go to the hospital then ring DS dad to pick him up it will take him at least 1 1/2 hours to do so. But hey ho think after reading all these posts Im feeling a bit more relaxed about it! Nice to know other people are in/or have been in the same situation. Makes me feel better until baby comes he he. Do they always give tea and toast my mum and my husband at the time got tea and toast as my labour went on forever and finally progressed at 9pm I had DS at 6am I looked around and there was tea and toast. I thought how nice that was of them! But where was bloody mine!! He he

Fingers crossed labour comes on fairly slowly then so you won't feel rushed and will have plenty of time to get your ex over. They say you shouldn't be in hospital until you're at least 3cm dilated but how you are supposed to tell, I don't know! I know subsequent babies can be dramatically different but on the whole I think 2nd time around you are much more in tune with your body and can tell if you're going to be a while.

dikkertjedap Thanks but i'm gonna push for a Hb!x

I hope labour does come on slow again. I was about 2 to 4 cm dilated for about 5 days I think. They kept me in as when I arrived I was a out 2 cm and kept having contracions so they made me stop in for a week I had contractions on and off I dilated very slowly. They said they were going to induce I was soo tired. Then I dilated to about 6 cm and was sent to have baby had a hormane drip and then it got going. But yep how are you supposed to know?! Im not sticking my fingers up there and also I dont know what Im feeling for he he. I think if anything happens I will just go as Im rubbish at pain and would want to get get check out.

hiya,

DD was almost 3 when I gave recently bith. we had sorted childcare for the day but DC2 decided to make an appearance in the middle of the night. we took DD with us to hospital (after all, hubby had to drive me to hospital and we could not leave DD alone at home). we took her to the ward where the midwifes told us off ("this is not the right place for a child") but they let us in nevertheless (what other option was there???). I took DP and DD with me to the delivery room, got undressed, hopped into the pool. when I started pushing I send them out of the room (I was a bit noisy and did not want to scare DD). luckily second stage just took 10 mins, so after a 10 minute walk in the corridor, DP and DD where able to come back into the delivery room to see the new arrival.

so it worked out fine for us. the only downside was, that DP was not with me DC was born but frankly, I found giving birth on my own (and MV) quite liberating!

I dont mind my DP waiting out side with my DS I must admit. I dont want to be told off for taking my son with me. I will ask midwife wehn I see her on Wednesday. I dont know what you are supposed to do sometimes I mean there is just no other way sometimes and what are you supposed to do?! Glad it worked out for you.

My inlaws had to travel 100 miles to get to us when I went into labour, thankfully (on that front at least) it went on for a lloooooonnngg time.

I had a couple of dd1's friends' mums from school on standby

If it had come to it, I was prepared for the eventuality that dh may have had to stay at home with dd1 whilst I delivered dd2 alone.

Good luck, sounds like a cousin/neighbour standby plan might work for you :)

Thanks for the suggestions. I spoke to the midwife yeasterday and she said they frown upon taking children to the hospital I said well even if its for an hour whilst someone comes to pick him up? Her reply was you have 9 months to sort out childcare and labour will be longer than an hour so you should be ok to get someone. I mean FFS!! How does she know and what if its a false alarm dont want to keep ringing people up just in case. She then said how about a home birth? Well first its not my home think the landlord might find it icky?! Also I was in hospital for a week the last time and it was not easy. But then she would not know that as nothing is filled in on my notes. I went to hospital new years eve and they said there were no reults anywhere im now 27 weeks pregnant. I moved when I was about 16 weeks pregnant. I asked the midwife if she could fill it in and she was not happy there were not results and also said she could not find any (although some bloods were taken) I have had to chase up everything so far becuase of cock ups. I used to work in blood sciences/ microbiology in a hospital so I was really annoyed to find out not reaults are even on the computer! So how can she say have a home birth when she does not know anything? I have still yet to meet my midwife. Also she asked me to make another appt for 2 weeks time and I asked the receptionsit and she said I have no appts for 2 weeks time it will have to be 3. The midwife wanted me to come back after 2 weeks to make sure the reults are there. I really dont know what care I should be getting but I DO know it was not like this with my first.... sorry for ramble fell better.......