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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Will i need a cesarean???

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mum22soon · 27/09/2005 19:55

Hi i am recently new to mumsnet and wondered if anyone can help. I am expecting my second child in Fenruary, my first is now nine years old and being quite young when i had her i cant remember much about it. At my first antenatal appointment my midwife studied my notes and stated that she would make an appointment for me to see a consultant as my last labour was difficult - I lost 400ml blood, had a long second stage with fetal distress. My daughter was delivered by ventouse in the end and it was all quite traumatic, especially for a 16 y/o.

Is it routine to see a consultant during your pregnancy? i am just worried that they will suggest a cesarean.

Has anyone else been through a similar experience? I have been told to wait for my appointment but i cant help worrying about it.It could well be nothing but this feels like my first pregnancy all over again.

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mears · 27/09/2005 19:58

There is no reason to assume you would need a caesarean as you have given birth vaginally before, even though it was ventouse. 400ml is not a huge blood loss either so try not to worry too much. In some areas it is routine to have a consultant visit.

sweetheart · 27/09/2005 20:00

Congrats on your pregnancy first off! It really depends where you are in the country as care varies ALOT depending on your area.

Where I am most pregnant women have midwife care and it's only if you have a history of problems that you have consultant led care. It's nothing to worry about really by the sounds of it. It just means they want to moniter you more closely.

I am under consultant care this time round because we lost a baby earlier in the year and the extra appointments have helped me to remian calm about my pregnancy. It also meant for me that I got extra scans which is very reasurring and it's always a good excuse to see your baby again.

Please try not to worry. If they do suggest a c-section just make sure you discuss all the options fully and most importantly make sure you agree on something that YOU are happy with and is safe for you and your baby.

uwila · 27/09/2005 20:01

I think you should view your trip to the consultant as an opportunity to ask these questions of him/her. Remember that a consultant can advise one course or another. But the choices are yours.

Nothing you have said here makes me think you are a candidate for caesarean. Why are you worried that he/she will suggest it.

sweetheart · 27/09/2005 20:01

ahhhh mears - as you are new to mumsnet you won't relise that she is a midwife and the font of all knowledge for us preggie ladies on here

uwila · 27/09/2005 20:02

Hi Sweetheart.

How's bub?

uwila · 27/09/2005 20:04

Ah yes. Mears is cool. I'd have to agree with Sweetheart.

sweetheart · 27/09/2005 20:04

hey Uwila - big and uncomfortable, but still fighting fit which is the main thing. Only another 9.5 weeks to go

How are you getting on with your little one?

uwila · 27/09/2005 20:15

Oh good. Do you know what you're having? When's he/she due?

My little cutie is growing like a weed (as they do). He giggles for me, but not for anyone else. I love it.

BTW, both my kids were born by caesarean. The first one was emergency. The second was by choice (mine). So just remember, mum22soon, press for the birth YOU want.

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mum22soon · 27/09/2005 20:24

Thanks for all your replies. I think i have this in my mind as with my first a cesarean was suggested at the time as the baby was in distress. This then changed as i was too far advanced. I also wonder if the fact that i had an epidural had anything to do with the prolonged second stage.

I live in south london and i know that different boroughs have different ways of doing things but my friend in the same borough hasnt been told the same. I know ill get all my answers once ive seen them but its the waiting i dont like.

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sweetheart · 27/09/2005 21:04

we are 85% sure it's a boy but I'm having another scan in a couple of weeks to confirm that.

It is due 4th dec, but I don't mind if it comes early

Great to hear that your doing so well with your little boy. I still check in on the June thread every now and again. Give my love to everyone.

sorry mum22 - didn't mean to hyjak your thread

jumble · 27/09/2005 23:42

Hi mum22soon, don't worry! I had an emergency caesarean with dd1 after meticulously planning a homebirth and dd2 also arrived via caesarean despite all the epidural team could throw at me and then some. At the end of the day the birth experience does become less important (as you already know having a 9 yo already!) and you just stick with what you want and make the medical team respect that unless anyone is at risk medically. If you have the chance to see a consultant pick their brains about every possible scenario you are worrying about, it is their job to answer your questions. I did this and went into labour with dd2 feeling very positive and despite complications still feel I had a positive birth experience because I knew what was going on.

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