DH was with me last time (my second, his first) and was fine at the time, but then spent the next 12 month moaning about how tired he was as he'd had to stay up all night and suffered from 'foot in mouth' when we were first alone with bubs ("Now you'll know what it's like to be in second place" comment went down not very well at all)
Now I am not sure if I want him to be my birthing partner/support for this baby - due in just under 3 months. I have spoken to him about what would be best for the other kids ie. he could stay home with them and get a decent nights sleep - as he doesn't cope very well with losing sleep and is far better when he gets enough sleep, but he seems insistant that he wants to be there. He's incredibly tired already at the moment (work pressure, small children in house etc) so if he wound up on another marathon birthing partner experience it could finish him off and I'd much rather have a well rested DH to come home to after giving birth than a cranky miserable git man.
Not quite sure what to do / say. Personally I'm happy to go in on my own and just get on with it, but not sure that's allowed as I know you get left alone a lot. Unfortunately homebirth isn't an option as we've had problem pregnancies in the past.
Any advice or pearly words of wisdom are very welcome as I've got 3 months to get this sorted out.