38+2 one day looking foward to it, dreading it the next

[Dozeyland]

Says it all in the title really...

one minute i am looking forward to having our baby, being a mum, getting labour done with etc.

then some days like today i feel shit scared about it all, more so how i will be with a newborn, coping. living with family members, feeling pressured etc

i don't get why i'm not ecstatic? :(

Completely normal, fear of the unknown.

Try not to feel pressured by anyone, go with your instincts, it will be your baby and will be your decisions. You will be fine, try not to worry. Come on here if you are feeling anxious at all at any time and we can tell you what is normal, which i'm sure it all will be :)

Will do, thanks.

i think thats what i need to remember, mine & dps baby - our choices, our coping and living skills. :)

Pg with dc4 and feel the same, entirely normal

38+1 here and feel exactly the same! Feel v guilty sometimes as I was desperate to be pregnant and so pleased when I found out I was, and now the baby's almost here I find myself panicking at times and thinking "what have we done?" I think it's fear of the unknown and normal. At other times I just can't wait for the baby to be here. I'm sure we'll be fine once the babies have arrived!

Pg with dc1 and I've been the same recently; very up and down with it all. Last night though, no reason for it; I got a weird sense of calm come over me and I'm just really accepting now. I accept that I'll give birth at some point in the next 2 weeks and it'll probably hurt, I accept that I don't know how to feel about my baby yet but that's probably alright, and if I have any issues with my small like colic or reflux or loads of crying, then I'll probably still be alright. The last few weeks though I've been and done something for myself every day; got my hair done, got my nails done, been round all my mates houses, looked at all the lush clothes I'm going to be wearing soon, all that stuff and finally, I sat down to DH to talk to him and really made him listen because I'm frightened. That's really important. I sat him down and told him he had to listen to me without interrupting me to try and comfort/reason with me. I spouted off for ages until I couldn't think of anything else to worry about or cry about and I think it helped both of us. Me because everything was out there and him because he had the whole story and now it feels like were singing from the same hymn sheet, so to speak.

Sorry for the long post!
Feel better xx

Jazzie - Yeah thats exactly what I did last night, was in the shower having a cry, thinking of all these things in my head, DP came home and i just broke down, he was so supportive & lovely and listened to me. and offered his advice (as much as the man can :P) and just really helped to put me at ease. As Lurcher said too, - it is the UNKNOWN thats scary. of course i'm scared of the pain but thats only human, i suppose its just how you MANAGE the fear...?

But i have like 11 days now, could be sooner or later and i think i just need to keep saying to myself - it will be ok. there is nothing bigger in this world than having a baby of your own, physically & emotionally. I think i just need to think realistically but also hope for the best like anyone does. :-)

thanks for the posts xxx