Embarking on the adventure of sex again!

[randommummy]

It's 8.5 weeks sice I had a forceps birth with an episiotomy (excuse my spelling),a 2nd degree tear and a bit of coccyx damage.

The long and short of it is I feel like a cavern down below! We have had sex for the first time this week and though it seems ok for him and emotionaly it met my needs for phsyical contact, I am worried that it won't feel as good for him as it used to. I am doing pelvic floor exercises constantly.

I've lost all my confidence and wonder if it will get any better and I will be ale to satisfy my wonderfully supportive partner like I used to.

Sorry to hear you feel rubbish.
It does sound like its more in your head than a physical problem.
Its still very early days. After my episiotomy I found sex painful for about 18 months and even now certain positions can be a little uncomfortable.
Vaginas are designed to streetch for the baby to come out and then come back together (like a concertina) so I doubt its as much of a problem as you are imagining.
Some more info that might help here-
www.askamum.co.uk/Mum/Search-Results/Sex/Sex-after-birth-Relight-your-fire/
www.bellybelly.com.au/articles/post-natal/sex-after-childbirth
Try not to worry, he loves you for who you are!
I think the most important thing is relaxuing and getting your confidence back, the early weeks of Moptherhood can be tumultuous times, wonderful and difficult, be kind to yourself!
Selina x

please don't worry, most women I know took months to have fulfilling sex and quite a few find sex more pleasurable than before birth! I had a different issue myself, the midwife over-stitched me and I had to have a little reconstructive surgery, my GP was brilliant when I got the courage to ask for help. Give yourself time, like Selina said, and congratulations!