I had my DS at 42+1 after a 26hr labour. He was a planned home birth that ended up in hospital with a drip, failed ventouse and keillands and simpsons forceps in theatre as he was back to back and had his chin sticking out. I ended up with an episiotomy turning into a 3rd degree tear.
My son was battered and bruised and still has a scar under his eye form the forceps and he had a huge caput on his head for ages. All in all it was quite a traumatic delivery and although I am currently booked for another homebirth, due to continuing faecal incontinence issues several midwives have informed me that at my 20 week consultant appointment I'll be recommended to go for a section.
My problem is although I accept the birth I had and in fact felt completely informed and respected at every point, the post natal care I received was horrendous. I was threatened by a midwife that my 8lb14 baby with an apgar score of 10 would get brain damage if I did not top him up with formula, I was prevented from breast feeding except from once every four hours, the midwive once in the night took my baby away to top him up with formula and never brought him back and when I went looking for him half an hour later a strange woman not in uniform in the staff room was holding him and complained that I wanted him back. They tried to give me heparin that was for another patient and for two days had two drug charts running for me.
The point is every time I think of having to stay alone in this hospital I start crying. Our hospital will let partners stay over if you are in your own room but section patients have to spend the first night on a ward. Has anyone heard of people being allowed to stay in their own room from the first night and can anyone help me come up with arguments as to why they should let me please?
I have posted this on the end of the ELCS after trauma thread so sorry to re-post but I'm just constantly crying now and unable to sleep so could really do with any advice.