due in 4-6 weeks after losing last child when 15 months

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hi.
not really sure what i'm wanting to ask or say.
due in 6 weeks but being induced in 4.
last baby diagnosed with leukaemia at 15 days and died at 15 months - still not cleared her stuff out of the room the new baby will be moving into.
to be honest still finding it v v strange/difficult to think that i will actually have another baby relatively soon.
thank G have a healthy 7 year old but also worried about how i'll be with him when new one arrives.

No experience, but congratulations on the individual that you are about to give birth to. Im sure your DC2 would be very proud of its baby sibling.
Love to your family x

No advice or experience either - but many congratulations on your soon to be baby. Make sure you ask for any support you need. x

I'm so sorry for the loss of your wee girl. I think it is a confusing time - you're happy about the new arrival, but feel maybe disloyal to your little girl, and it's also confusing - if your daughter was still with you, would you be having this baby at all? These paradoxes and confusions are, I think, common after losing a baby, at any age, and can't really be resolved. Talking them through here is probably a good idea.

In the meantime, be gentle with yourself, accept the funny feelings as they come, and don't worry if you have ups and downs - they're very normal.

HI so sorry for the loss of your little girl, I can't imagine what you are going through, that's so very very sad. I have never been through simelar but had 2 stillbirths and with the subsequent babies it was very hard and I was very scared bad things would happen to them aswell. I felt they were not neccesarily mine to keep. I was worried sick. Things got abit easier in time but I am still carrying the scars and more overprotective than most. i was elated when DSs were born healthy but also sad as time went on for what i missed out on with DDs.

It must be really hard with all the nursery things etc and I have no advice as never been through it but have friends through loss groups and some found it comforting to use the same as their older sib and others wanted it packed away as it was 'theirs'. It's an individual thing and can only be done in your own time. Wishing you all the luck in the world with your impending arrival x