Looking like my sister is going to have a cs...

[katiepotatie]

what will she need help with most when she gets home?

does she have othr children? will her dh/dp be off?

No other children, first baby and her dh will be off for a week, just thinking what can I do to help too

Frozen dinners, shopping being done, no ironing or washing, anything that involves bending or picking stuff up really. I was lucky that I had a week in hospital, a day at home with DH then my mum and sister arrived for a week. I didn't realy have any pain after my section so was able to drive and get on with my day to day life easily.

Ask her if there's anything specific. It also depends on how she is afterwards. Smilar to kreecher, I had no pain at all and was back to normal very quickly (I was discharged after 12hrs though). What I appreciated most was probably similar to any new mum regardless of mode of delivery. People allowing me time and space to learn to bfeed, cuddle dd, nap and most importantly, buggering off when I needed them to. In all seriousness, I had family that turned up on day 3, stayed all day and expected lunch and dinner. I was on my knees, sobbing and despairing by the time they left.

is she planning to bf? might need help with that - only partly to do with her cs! if you cant, can you find her the numbers of groups etc?

After my sections I would have quite liked someone to offer to take me to the shops I hated not being able to drive, when DH was at work I felt like I was under house arrest.

If you go to visit, make your own brew and one for the mum. Bring food (cake). Offer to hold baby while she has a leisurely bath.

If you take flowers, get ones that are handtied or put them in a vase when you get there. (I love getting flowers but hate trimming the stems and finding a vase ungrateful)

me too moaningminne - I hate getting flowers for exactly that reason

I'm with moaningminnie on the driving - when dd arrived there was snow on the ground outside and I couldn't even walk as trying to stabilise on slippery ground uses more stomach muscles than you would think! My Mum and my sister came over twice a week to take me out, otherwise I would have gone mad with cabin fever!
Basically they did what I would have done if I could - made tea, meals, did washing, cuddled baby while I slept etc.

My mum would come round every day at 11ish and I would go in the shower. It was bliss.

Also help with the washing - I couldn't bend to use the machine.

She is planning on bf, and I have bf both mine so can help with that. My two dc's other gp's live next to her so I though I could leave them there while I popped in to help. Unfortunately I don't drive, but can help with washing etc and letting her have a sleep.