ADHD adult son

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Has an anyone got any experience of dealing with an adult son aged 24 who was diagnosed a year ago with ADHD and began medication in January.

I am a single parent at my witts end with him. I deal with him ranting at me about how much he hates me, daily I am called various swear words by him and on it goes. He won’t move out, can’t afford too and instead I walk around on eggshells dreading my weekends and looking forward to returning to work so I get a break from him.

He has a full time job, has been on annual leave for two weeks which never helps but does not excuse his behavior towards me.

He pays me £50 a week, I do all his food shopping, wash all his clothes. Generally skivvy after him and in return he has absolutely nothing nice to say about me.

i kick him out and risk my family turning their backs on me, he is very good at playing the victim and has told me I will never ever be part of his children’s lives etc

if I ask him not to swear and shout at me, he shouts louder. My neighbour hear him.

I am exhausted, no support. The love for my son will never go I just cannot continue to live like I am and don’t know where to go to seek any support.

This sounds awful. His adhd is obviously not a reason for him to treat you so badly. I’m afraid I would be firm. I would not skivvy around him and I would give him a deadline to move out by or pay more keep/ be respectful.

does he have children?

None of what you describe is ADHD. Neurodiversity doesn't make you cruel.

Could you increase his board, but keep it together for a deposit to make him leave?

.My ds was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. He doesn't act like this. He procrastinated to an extreme, impulsively spends money and generally struggles with an overactive mind. But he is respectful, holds down a demanding job etc.
If your ds can work He obviously can be respectful to his boss so there is something in the dynamic between you that needs to change. And l am not blaming you. He sounds horrible.

Can you say to him..you are obviously not happy living here so it's time to get your own place. I think that would suit you better.
Meantime disengage from him. Don't get into any conversations. Step right back and practically act like he is not there.
Don't be manipulated by him saying about his kids etc..that's all bullshit as he will probably be in the door asking you to mind them!!
Has he ever had medication for his ADHD.

This isn’t ADHD, it’s tolerated behavior.
He’s 24, working, and still disrespecting you because there are no consequences.
Set firm rules, stop doing everything for him, and give a clear deadline or he moves out.
He will react, but if you don’t change anything, nothing will change.