Nearly 14-year-old with overdoses and school refusal, unsure about school move

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Tw!!! Intentional overdose ❗️

I just don’t know what to do.
My daughter is nearly 14, she isn’t diagnosed but they have started the ND pathway. In the last year she has taken two intentional overdoses and has completely withdrawn from school. At the beginning of the year, she moved to a new school due to bullying, however, she has never enjoyed school setting and attendance hasn’t been great throughout. She’s now begging me to go back to her old school as she has no friends at the new school and feels isolated. She wants to go back to the other school to be with her one friend who I personally think isn’t great for the both of them but I’m really stuck on what to do.

My medication is in a locked safe, however, she found the key and took one of my tablets because she’s ‘bored’ this is a strong medication and she could have caused herself serious harm. I’m at a loss, I’m trying to manage my full time job, my health and my three kids one who is diagnosed with autism and the other just beginning the process. I feel like a horrendous mother and I just don’t know what to do

Im feeling incredibly burned out myself and struggling with work on top of this but cannot have any time off or I trigger a formal action due to past time off work due to daughters health. Idk what to do

I think you should allow her to go back to her old school. If it doesn't work out are you in a position to home educate or pay for tuition for a time ? This must be so hard for you

I’d send her back to her old school if they have a place available.

One of my children didn’t cope with secondary at all though, he tried three different ones in the end but none worked. I ended up withdrawing him all together.

He took 3 overdoses, huge ones he was lucky to survive. My heart goes out to you.

I’ll give the school a call and see if it’s a possibility, I suppose I have nothing to lose.

I am barely getting by with this job, let alone if I didn’t have one. Unfortunately, home schooling or paying for tuition is not an option, despite how much I wish it could be.

thank you, and I’m sorry you’ve had experience in this. It’s the worst feeling ever, I’m so drained, I am just bursting into tears at random times in the day. I don’t know how to keep going.

Wow OP that's really hard, you have so much going on. Do you have any support? You really need to look after yourself and of course you are not a horrendous mum! You need to be much kinder to yourself.

I agree that all you can do is see how she goes back at the old school if they have space. I think this is such a common age for girls with high functioning ASD to fall apart.

What's your problem with the old friend? Have you spoken to her about the bullying and why she wants to go back to it (it will be worse if she goes back) What mental health support does she have? Is her school signed up to MHST? Was there CAMHS after the overdose?