Hi 👋 all im new and im faced with this awful situation lomg story short my youngest child who live with me is 10 in year6 refusing school due to trauma, his dad who is emotionally abusive broke into my home and took my other son who was 11 almost 12. A year ago. My son did walk out with him though. Not straight away but sometime after he started refusing school and has been for almost a year. I wont go into all that. Im worried and I feel like a complete failure because I was carrying all this alone working full time as a teaching assistant in a school a little further away my daughter who's 21 said she would have him while I worked i took time of to be there for him in the beginning but nothing worked. Now ive left thay job this week and started a new job cleaning in a school alot less hours only 10 a week ny old job was 31 hours a week ive been given myself a hard time about it all week. I was going through a capability assesment at work and I was put on a final warning in the end for having a health problem(through stress ) some days I couldnt face work and it all got on top of me a few weeks ago as was coming up to my sisters anniversary of when she passed 13 years at 24 and then my sons 13th birthday a week after who doesn't want to see me (dad is emotionally abusive) I just feel like ive lost my purpose i know that sounds selfish. Regards to my job. Since my son wants no time with me we aren't getting on and I feel like ive made a huge mistake leaving my job. But now ive left they have wiped my final warning of so I only have a written warning. Because I was of for just over 2 days with a health problem. Because an amount of time of last year it triggered it. Not sure if this is fair or not so if I go for another school job id have a better chance if I went back then id be on a final warning and mor me than 2 days of id be dismissed. I feel deflated like ive let my children down and myself... its frustrating because my son is suppose to be starting a new secondary this September and I wanted to keep going in this job until then. But it all got on top of me everything. Its making me anxious as if he goes im worried ill be bored and ill never get into a school job again...