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contact centre recomend therapist for abused kids

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Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 21:01

My children have been going to supervised contact centre to see there dad for the past few months but the report done by superviser at the centre had says they recomend a familiy therapist due to my children bringing up in conversation every visit about being abused by there father times like when he kicked them punched them pulled them around by the hair of the head or whiped with wires or when there half brother drowned and suffocated them with a pillow he just replies to the kids iv never hit yous gaslighting the kids and the kids are geting upset shouting at him saying why are you lieing you hit us since we where babys only to be gaslit the report says he should admit to the things he has done in the past to move on as children are unsettled and reluctent to want to see him there is a ongoing police investigation into historical child abuse even the school have reported concerns to social work that the kids do not want to see him and there mental health and learning is effected every time they attend blocks of contact now the contact centre recomend family therapy but i am concerned about this therapy as i dont believe my children should have to be forced into contact i am court ordered the report even states there dad shows total disregard to contact centre advice as he speaks about court orders and tells the children you will be coming to live with me soon the children get scared they also ask to leave the centre early every time but are refused by staff what should i do i feel like my childrens mental health is going downhill there like cats on a hot tin roof before and after contact they have told contact centre they do not want to be here and now i feel therapy is another way to silence them and forced to forget about the abuse they received and witnesed being done to my self it all feels very strange the report more or less says he should admit to abusing kids but centre have not sent more dates for next block of contact i feel sick

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Titasaducksarse · 07/12/2025 21:22

If there are safeguarding concerns, Don't send them to contact!

FightNight · 07/12/2025 21:26

Do you have a social worker you can speak to for advice? If at all possible you should stop contact. I understand this might not be possible. Maybe try calling domestic abuse charities for advice.

nightmarepickle2025 · 07/12/2025 21:29

Did you witness this abuse? It should be reported to the police and social services, social services can advise what to do about contact. Appreciate it’s hard with a court order but they shouldn’t have to see someone who has abused them this seriously.

Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 21:32

No social work are not involved iv tryed to reach out iv not witnesed the abuse just seen the marks after contact when it was at his house he has been convicted twice for donestic abuse towards me and done this infront of the kids for over 8 years there is a ongoing police investigation for historical child abuse but courts gave contact its shocking my kids are scared and i am made to do whst i am told by judge

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Cat1504 · 07/12/2025 21:41

Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 21:32

No social work are not involved iv tryed to reach out iv not witnesed the abuse just seen the marks after contact when it was at his house he has been convicted twice for donestic abuse towards me and done this infront of the kids for over 8 years there is a ongoing police investigation for historical child abuse but courts gave contact its shocking my kids are scared and i am made to do whst i am told by judge

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Did you report the marks to children’s services at the time? Did you take the children to see a doctor to get the marks medically documented? Did you take photos at the time to show children’s services?
just trying to understand where you are at

Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 21:47

Cat1504 · 07/12/2025 21:41

Did you report the marks to children’s services at the time? Did you take the children to see a doctor to get the marks medically documented? Did you take photos at the time to show children’s services?
just trying to understand where you are at

Yes i reported to social work over and over they just kept sending them back to the point i went to family court i didnt take pictures i should have done that i felt it was wrong as they where on there bottoms social work know about everything as i reported abuse to them but i felt like they turned a blind eye so i reported it to police every time thus is the 4th police investigation

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Cat1504 · 07/12/2025 22:15

Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 21:47

Yes i reported to social work over and over they just kept sending them back to the point i went to family court i didnt take pictures i should have done that i felt it was wrong as they where on there bottoms social work know about everything as i reported abuse to them but i felt like they turned a blind eye so i reported it to police every time thus is the 4th police investigation

What was the medical view? Accidental injury?

Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 22:21

Cat1504 · 07/12/2025 22:15

What was the medical view? Accidental injury?

There was No medical view. when the police droped investigations in the past the social work treated it like it never happened but this time police have not droped the investigation i hope they charge him so we can be set free from his abuse and lies

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cestlavielife · 07/12/2025 22:24

They should see the family therapist on their own yes.
Agree to that.
But not to therapy sessions with their dad.

Lillynesbit · 07/12/2025 22:30

cestlavielife · 07/12/2025 22:24

They should see the family therapist on their own yes.
Agree to that.
But not to therapy sessions with their dad.

Thats what i was thinking i dont think its a good idear doing therapy with him its another way to abuse them i feel

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WhatTheFuk · 08/12/2025 01:38

What if you refuse contact due to how distressing it is for the children?

Lillynesbit · 08/12/2025 08:30

WhatTheFuk · 08/12/2025 01:38

What if you refuse contact due to how distressing it is for the children?

I will be held in contempt of court if i dont follow the court order

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Titasaducksarse · 08/12/2025 08:47

Lillynesbit · 08/12/2025 08:30

I will be held in contempt of court if i dont follow the court order

No you wont.
Contempt as term doesn't exist in family court.

If you stop contact he would have to apply for enforcement. At that point you'd explain why you stopped contact.....

Lillynesbit · 08/12/2025 13:04

Titasaducksarse · 08/12/2025 08:47

No you wont.
Contempt as term doesn't exist in family court.

If you stop contact he would have to apply for enforcement. At that point you'd explain why you stopped contact.....

I have court again this week for a welfare hearing as he is wanting a third party to attend the contact centre with him for the next block booking thst starts on saturday this person has also abused the children so i will make judge aware and hopfully they listen to my concerns the schools concerns abd also the child contsct centre report will prove i am telling the truth the kids are all over the place they dont want to see him they want him out there life they are in fear of going back to see him it makes me feel broken inside knowing there voices are not to be heard

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cestlavielife · 08/12/2025 15:39

The family therapist will listen to them.

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