My 7 year old child has been having contact with his dad for a little over two years (through his dad’s choice that there was no contact before this). I tried to work with him on contact schedule but we disagreed. Throughout the mediation and court process he was consistently difficult. We have had the court order now for around 18 months. During this time he has already dropped some allocated contact with our child due to his “behaviour”. He was mostly consistent with the remaining contact he did have, however our child’s need was always below his children from a different relationship. He now wants to vary the order again and I have disagreed. I believe it is to meet his needs and not our child’s. as I have disagreed, he has stated that he wants no contact going forward. He has maintained this position, even in response to trying to find a solution.
I now have to tell my child that this relationship they have built with their father and siblings is no longer going to continue. Our child will be truly devastated. I have no idea how to tell them. Does anybody have any advice, please? I have been thinking for weeks, but nothing seems right. His bahbiour is already struggling at the moment, we suspect there could potentially be adhd there and I’m going through the necessary channels for this.