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please help at my wits end

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pollyboo23 · 24/06/2025 08:57

I am completely at a loss and since last Thursday am now suffering with massive depression due to this.
Basically my friend who I wanted to help, was getting divorced and needed somewhere to live. I decided to let me house out, and did all I could to get it ready, painted, everything done so she could move in as soon as possible. I didnt want any rent upfront, bond I literally just wanted her and the kids to be happy.
My friend moved in and then not two days later social services turned up, it appears to be related to the man she was seeing, but not when the children were there. but he was round at the time when they turned up the children were not.
I did raise but to her face some slight concerns about him, but told her I trusted her.
Unfortunately, now she believe on 3 people knew about him, and everytning is pin pointing to me phoning social services, I didnt, I feel so sad, I have now been advised she no longer wants to be freinds, and want it to be a landlady tenant relationship.
i understand she feels betrayed by someone, but so do I, I only tried to help and only wanted to help, I feel like I have done everything I can, to have to now turned into a professional relationship.
What can I do, or do I walk away and just leave it as it is, I want her to be happy and would not ask her to leave the house, eventhough I have been accused of this, but my depression has really kicked back in
I was wondering if it could be someone on the other side of the family or something, but wasnt me

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LIZS · 24/06/2025 09:03

Does it matter? The bf is perceived as a risk to her dc even indirectly. Is she still seeing him? Get the lease formalised, do the statutory ll checks, ask for a deposit and secure it etc. She may decide the friendship is worth salvaging and put her dc first but you should protect yourself in meantime.

pollyboo23 · 24/06/2025 10:24

aw see I dont want to make her or her kids short on money. I just feel so so sad all eyes seem to have come to me, after I have tried to help. Not sure what I can do though. It would make no sense its me, as its my house and why would I do everything I have done to then do that.

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